irc333 Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 (edited) I saw this profile of a very cute woman, age 40, single, never married, no kids....great posture, smile, seems approachable. I don't care what kind of education a woman has, but she said in her profile that a lot of men find the idea of her having a PhD kinda sexy, however, it becomes a problem with men later on, it intimidates them. That I don't mind, but.....she says she does like to travel, and the guy she dates should have a passport. I'd like to travel, occasionally, but I'm NOT Mr. Money bags either (she says shes' been to 40 countries) I'm meeting a lot of women who "like to travel" and I can say seriously I don't have the budget for that kind of thing...at least not worldWIDE traveling, though I'd like to do it some day. In her pics, she doesn't really seem indimidating looking, actually girl next door ish, the kind of woman you can bring home to mom and dad. Would THIS be an example of being "out of your league" for some guys? Edited October 22, 2010 by irc333
Surrealist Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Incompatible but not out of my league. Going by your description she sounds interesting enough. Similarly I don't have enough dollars to go travelling either, its a little hard when you got bills and a mortgage.
TaurusTerp Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I saw this profile of a very cute woman, age 40, single, never married, no kids....great posture, smile, seems approachable. I don't care what kind of education a woman has, but she said in her profile that a lot of men find the idea of her having a PhD kinda sexy, however, it becomes a problem with men later on, it intimidates them. That I don't mind, but.....she says she does like to travel, and the guy she dates should have a passport. I'd like to travel, occasionally, but I'm NOT Mr. Money bags either (she says shes' been to 40 countries) I'm meeting a lot of women who "like to travel" and I can say seriously I don't have the budget for that kind of thing...at least not worldWIDE traveling, though I'd like to do it some day. In her pics, she doesn't really seem indimidating looking, actually girl next door ish, the kind of woman you can bring home to mom and dad. Would THIS be an example of being "out of your league" for some guys? PhD is right up my alley. I like smart, accomplished women. The travelling thing does sound incompatible though. I don't like to travel more than once a year, and I'd rather go to a resort, chill by the beach, and eat good food than see sights.
youngskywalker Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 "like to travel" in a dating profile is just girl talk. But in this case it seems like it's a passion for her. You better be ready to do a little traveling! As far as a PhD don't at all be intimidated by that if you're intelligent and have a wide range of things you can converse about. Recently I dated a girl with a masters degree (I have a high school diploma, but professional trade). I had better conversations with her than any girl I dated in the past. She won't look down at you because of your education level if she sees you are driven and goal oriented. Go for it.
jerbear Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Nope not out of my league. I would not be itimidated by a world traveling, PhD, older woman; I would pursue her.
EasyHeart Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I would not be intimidated, but I wouldn't necessarily be impressed either. It would depend on the subject matter of the PhD. I agree that "loves to travel" is something that all women say. If you want a chuckle, look up on the explanation evolutionary psychologists give for this love of travel. . . .
carhill Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 If she doesn't mind dating a college dropout, I could care less. I usually travel between 75K and 150K miles per year, mostly domestic, but some overseas, so that's like breathing. Small world. Doesn't cost much. Since she has a PhD, I'd assume she's smarter than me and knows how to travel inexpensively. Right? OP, seriously, when people put that kind of stuff in their profile, my response is *next*. Waste of time. She's giving you really good information about *who* she is, and it has nothing to do with traveling and PhD's. Good luck
flying Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I would not be intimidated, but I wouldn't necessarily be impressed either. It would depend on the subject matter of the PhD. Elaborate please! I'm curious.
Kamille Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 If she works in the academic world, it's safe to assume many of her travels are conferences. What does this mean for you? All accommodations paid. I travel a lot for my work, about 4 international trips a year, 4-6 national. BF usually picks 2 or 3 where he can and wants to follow and the rest I do alone.
Author irc333 Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 True, however, I think she's not BS'ing about the traveling, she is even asking her future boyfriend she prefer he even carry a passport. When someone specifically mentions that in a mate in a dating profile...means she's probably a hardcore traveler. lol Her headliner says, "Looking for someone who can keep up with me..." She also leads a Bible study group at her church she's been going to, for a while. So she's got a lot of accolades apparently. Her Profession is "Education/HealtH" which means, she probably works at a college when she says, "Education", and of course her subject is Health more than likely. I have a friend going for his PhD in Archeology. I'm proud of this woman! lol (and I don't even know her) "like to travel" in a dating profile is just girl talk. But in this case it seems like it's a passion for her. You better be ready to do a little traveling! As far as a PhD don't at all be intimidated by that if you're intelligent and have a wide range of things you can converse about. Recently I dated a girl with a masters degree (I have a high school diploma, but professional trade). I had better conversations with her than any girl I dated in the past. She won't look down at you because of your education level if she sees you are driven and goal oriented. Go for it.
Cee Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I think the very least you can do is contact her. If you have a date, I'm sure she'll entertain you with lots of stories. Perhaps, she'll ignite the adventurer in you and you'll get travel tips. It's possible that your life experience and closer to home adventures will interest her. I often go on dates with people who are vastly different from me. It hasn't created a love connection, but I have learned many new things. In fact, I'd love to go on a "date" with her. I have many questions related to travel.
2sure Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 As an educated woman in her 40's who enjoys travel and has been to many places... I can tell you this. Most men over the age of 35 are no longer "intimidated" by women. And thats a good thing. A woman who makes money, a woman more educated than himself, etc. Its just not a big deal at our age. So..the fact that she says her Phd intimidates people..would be a concern to me. Because either she likes the idea of her education intimidating people and wishes it were so OR its not her education but something else that is sending the guys away. So there is that. As to the travel: I like to travel. I make it a priority. That is what I prefer to do with my discretionary income. I travel as often as I can and because I have done so for some time...as far as a partner goes...He would have to be able to share that interest, afford to continue to do so , and be able to have the free time available. Thats a must.
carhill Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I'll parse a bit... she doesn't really seem intimidating looking Her headliner says, "Looking for someone who can keep up with me..." actually girl next door ish she said in her profile that a lot of men find the idea of her having a PhD kinda sexy the kind of woman you can bring home to mom and dad. having a PhD <is> kinda sexy, however, it becomes a problem with men later on, it intimidates them She also leads a Bible study group at her church she's been going to she says she does like to travel, and the guy she dates should have a passport. "Looking for someone who can keep up with me..." OP, can I ask you, what do you have in your profile? To me, it's about *styles* matching up. You (and she) can do all those things and be all those things, but it's *how* you bring that package together which makes for compatibility. I say contact her, since I think you will anyway. Learn. Prove me wrong regarding my prior comment. I can learn too. Good luck
denise_xo Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Like others, I think that's a question of compatibility, not "league". I'm working on my PhD and have been to about 35 countries. "Like to travel" is definitely not girl talk in my book, and based on the information you've given I agree she probably means it and wants someone who can share that interest and life style. Since she has never been married and doesn't have children, she might be the restless type who is not too keen on settling down. She sounds like she's ambitious with whatever she's doing with her life and wants someone who shares that spirit.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I would say 90% of the dating profiles I see mention travelling, it's to be expected. I often use it as a conversation point, as I want to do more travelling myself. Also I'm not fazed by PhDs at all, as I have a masters.
Author irc333 Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 Yeah, she says she's not one for sitting down/sitting still to watch a movie for 2 hrs (yet she'll watch sports, lol) Like others, I think that's a question of compatibility, not "league". I'm working on my PhD and have been to about 35 countries. "Like to travel" is definitely not girl talk in my book, and based on the information you've given I agree she probably means it and wants someone who can share that interest and life style. Since she has never been married and doesn't have children, she might be the restless type who is not too keen on settling down. She sounds like she's ambitious with whatever she's doing with her life and wants someone who shares that spirit.
soserious1 Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 A lot of PhD holders must travel frequently due to their work, I think she's just being upfront about what her life entails.
youngskywalker Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 She also leads a Bible study group at her church she's been going to, for a while. So she's got a lot of accolades apparently. If she leads a Bible study group then its likely that some religious compatibility will be important to her. If you're into the Bible then it's an ice breaker. Trust me on this, I've been going to churches my whole life and I can tell you it's near the top of her list when choosing a date. So use it, but just be honest about it, she'll see right through you if you're not.
USMCHokie Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Advanced degrees do not intimidate me in the slightest bit. I don't consider holders of advanced degrees to necessarily be any more intelligent or able than anyone else. Having an advanced degree just means you had the time and money to sit through the classes and do the work. Degrees are conferred on minimal competency.
flying Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Yeah, she says she's not one for sitting down/sitting still to watch a movie for 2 hrs Huh. Well, this is the part I, personally, would find intimidating. (Or rather, somewhat off-putting.) And I have a PhD. I love watching movies. Sometimes I like sitting still. I wouldn't know how to relate to such a person.
Author irc333 Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 Yeah and when TRON comes out on IMAX, I guess she's stayin' home. LOL Huh. Well, this is the part I, personally, would find intimidating. (Or rather, somewhat off-putting.) And I have a PhD. I love watching movies. Sometimes I like sitting still. I wouldn't know how to relate to such a person.
flying Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Yeah and when TRON comes out on IMAX, I guess she's stayin' home. LOL Ha! Looking forward to it, myself.
Author irc333 Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 Ha! Looking forward to it, myself. Yeah, it doesn't seem realistic, I think everyone has a "favorite movie" that they are waiting for to come out that they REALLY want to see, and be willing to sit 2 hrs for it. lol
jerbear Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Advanced degrees do not intimidate me in the slightest bit. I don't consider holders of advanced degrees to necessarily be any more intelligent or able than anyone else. Having an advanced degree just means you had the time and money to sit through the classes and do the work. Degrees are conferred on minimal competency. Are you saying we're minimal competent bordering incompetent? :lmao: I jest. Honestly advanced degrees don't matter much, one of my first jobs, EVERYONE was on a first name basis. If someone wanted to be called Dr. so&so; everyone else just laughs because everyone there has advanced degrees and many already have published patents.
flying Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Are you saying we're minimal competent bordering incompetent? :lmao: I jest. Honestly advanced degrees don't matter much, one of my first jobs, EVERYONE was on a first name basis. If someone wanted to be called Dr. so&so; everyone else just laughs because everyone there has advanced degrees and many already have published patents. Yeah the "Dr. so&so" thing is funny. The only person who has EVER called me Dr. flying is my mother. She likes to address mail to me that way sometimes, for kicks.
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