boosh Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 So I had this long post about this situation/question, but upon reading it before posting, it wasn't needed. So here is it. I facebook messaged this girl out of the blue earlier this week that I know from college. I wanted to see how life had been going, etc. I've known her for a good 5 years, and we fooled around a little when we first met. Life circumstances like us both getting into serious committed relationships put stuff on the back burner. We remained friendly throughout, however I've always had that "what if?" feeling towards her. You know the one feeling you can never seem to shake, no matter how hard you try? Yeah that one. In her reply to my message she gave me the general answers about life, how work's goiong, etc. She also made a point of mentioning that her and her BF that had been dating for a good couple years had broken up, and that we should get together for drinks and catch up, etc. Naturally I'm all for this idea. So we've planned tentatively for tonight to meet up somewhere and do exactly that. I guess my question is how should I/do I approach this situation? I don't know how long they've been done, because I didn't ask through FB, as I felt it's rude frankly. I'd like to see if this has any potential of going anywhere because she's a fun girl to be around and talk to, but I also don't want to come off as having the wrong intentions and scare her off. I also don't want to be solely a rebound as I don;t think I could handle that right now. I really haven't had to many opportunities like this come my way lately so I want to be careful not to screw it up from the get go. I have that empty stomach feeling of nervousness about it, but not the bad kind, the excited kind (if that even makes sense.) Any thoughts and/or advice is greatly appreciated and welcomed!
Titania22 Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Might I suggest being friendly, flirtatious and playful, if you can. And I am sure during your conversation you will find out how long she has been single.
Author boosh Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 Might I suggest being friendly, flirtatious and playful, if you can. And I am sure during your conversation you will find out how long she has been single. See I think that's always been my issue. I don;t think I know the fine line that is being flirtatious to the point of subtle interest, and being completely obvious, etc. Part of me doesn't want to come off as appear to not be interested, etc. Yet by doing that it's too much, and a turn off. I guess it's just a tightrope act learning process. We'll see how it goes, I'm inclined to be a lot more cautious tonight than I normally would be.
Author boosh Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 So night went really well. I ended up picking her up at her place on my way home from work and we went and got a few drinks. It was already kind of late so we had to stay local. Stayed until closing, and overall just had a really good night. After I dropped her off, I was going to suggest that we should do this again sometime soon, but she beat me to it! I'm assuming that can only mean good things? Needless to say I'm in a good place right now mentally about it. I'm also happy with the fact that I was able to control myself. I feel like I came off as flirtatious and interested, but not over the top, etc., basically where it needed to be.
Titania22 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 So night went really well. I ended up picking her up at her place on my way home from work and we went and got a few drinks. It was already kind of late so we had to stay local. Stayed until closing, and overall just had a really good night. After I dropped her off, I was going to suggest that we should do this again sometime soon, but she beat me to it! I'm assuming that can only mean good things? Needless to say I'm in a good place right now mentally about it. I'm also happy with the fact that I was able to control myself. I feel like I came off as flirtatious and interested, but not over the top, etc., basically where it needed to be. Awesome! It's great that she told you she wants to see you again, instead of the other way around. I'm glad it worked out.
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