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I went out with a guy for our third date. We agreed to meet at a movie theater, have a quick dinner there and then watch a movie. I went there first, after a couple of minutes I received a text message that he was gonna be a little bit late and asked me to buy the tickets if I was already there. I preferred to completely ignore the text. I simply waited for him and when he showed up he paid for the tickets... We ended up having a very simple dinner for which he also paid, and then we watched the movie holding hands for most of the time... I am the kind of person who takes her time with guys, never do anything hasty. Maybe he thought that he isn't going to go anywhere fast with me, so he didn't want to pay the bill. What do you think?

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Maybe he thought that he isn't going to go anywhere fast with me, so he didn't want to pay the bill. What do you think?

 

Huh...? :confused:

 

But he did pay...and he didn't make any mention of the fact that you chose not to get the tickets ahead of time...so what's the issue here...?

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You're questioning the guy's motive because he asked you to get the tickets since he was late?

 

I am not sure why this will cause suspicion. Maybe since he was already late, he didn't want to risk missing parts of the movie by waiting in line after he already was going to arrive late. You were there so you could have saved time but you opted not to cooperate but ignore his text.

 

 

Another thing that I can't help but to wonder since your approach on this situation was to not cooperate with him but to instead ignore him is that maybe you are doing a lot of taking in the dating and not doing a lot of cooperating and giving. He could have possibly wanted to see if you would finally give something. Idk.

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You're questioning the guy's motive because he asked you to get the tickets since he was late?

 

I am not sure why this will cause suspicion. Maybe since he was already late, he didn't want to risk missing parts of the movie by waiting in line after he already was going to arrive late. You were there so you could have saved time but you opted not to cooperate but ignore his text.

 

 

Another thing that I can't help but to wonder since your approach on this situation was to not cooperate with him but to instead ignore him is that maybe you are doing a lot of taking in the dating and not doing a lot of cooperating and giving. He could have possibly wanted to see if you would finally give something. Idk.

What she said. What he asked you was pretty innocuous, especially on a third date. Especially given that he DID pay, seemingly without making any issue out of it.

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I went out with a guy for our third date. We agreed to meet at a movie theater, have a quick dinner there and then watch a movie. I went there first, after a couple of minutes I received a text message that he was gonna be a little bit late and asked me to buy the tickets if I was already there. I preferred to completely ignore the text. I simply waited for him and when he showed up he paid for the tickets... We ended up having a very simple dinner for which he also paid, and then we watched the movie holding hands for most of the time... I am the kind of person who takes her time with guys, never do anything hasty. Maybe he thought that he isn't going to go anywhere fast with me, so he didn't want to pay the bill. What do you think?

 

I'd be annoyed if I were him. But then I'm not from a culture where the man paying for dates is common or such a big issue - I just simply don't understand why the man is supposed to pay...

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