JamesMay Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 Hi everyone, I'm in a complicated situation. There's a girl who caught my eye about a year ago but I've 'known' here a little longer (she's from the same town, a couple of years ago we were on brief speaking terms, mostly online) so I already had her on facebook (we have a lot of friends in common). 6 months ago she was organising a party with some friends of mine. I had told one of my female mutual friends about my fondness of her and she introduced me to her. We shook hands briefly and she was looking straight in my eyes. Later that night (girls will be girls?), some of her friends I didn't know came up to me and told me to make a move because 'she didn't have a boyfriend' and 'didn't get off much'. I thought this was ridiculous so I decided not to do anything that night. My friend was joking about it to me to the point that he did do something. He went up to her and did exactely the same thing. At that point I was quite certain that would be it. At about 5 am the party was finished, music turned off and everyone leaving the club. My coat was in another room so I was walking up the stairs when suddenly someone taps me on the shoulder. It was her asking if we we're still doing something? I was a little perplexed at her asking (also a little drunk) when a couple of seconds later some guy behind her starts talking to her. I waited for about half a minute but they keeped talking and then went to get my coat and left I felt weird, sorry and a little hopeful about the night before so I sent her a short message (pm on facebook) that I might have been a bit too tired and drunk for further partying. But who knows maybe later? She didn't answer for a week and then she sent me a message saying she was glad I had enjoyed myself. She asked if there were any offers made to go out? I replied and told her she had come up to me and asked. I proposed to maybe go out and have drink next weekend but she was on a family vacation. I didn't reply after her declination because she didn't suggest an alternative date. A month later we're both at the same club. She comes up to talk to me, I ask her about her trip but the music was really loud so we had to repeat what we said several times making the conversation more akward than it already was. After about 5 minutes she's off to her friends. Afterwards we danced a little flirtyish but nothing else happened. The day after I sent her another message asking her if she was interested in chatting over a cup of coffee in a more fitted enviroment. She declined a week later after I ran in to her at a bar saying she was busy (she had midterms coming up...) I haven't seen her all summer and last night we're at that same place again. I don't really know how to act around her (I still fancy her though) so I went for the ignoring option as my best. It does seem to make her a little pissed of because when she was walking by one of her friends pushed her in my direction and when I was ordering at the bar she was tending she completely ignored me and served everyone right and left of me, avoiding eye contact. I go back to order again a while later, no one at the bar so she had to serve me. She looked a little nervous but she was smiling and looking in my eyes. I looked quite confident I think and I smiled back at her. The beer she served me was like half foam but I said it was ok and it would work itself out. But again, nothing much happened. It's not keeping me awake at night but I was wondering what you guys thought about this? Should I go up and talk to her or just let it go because she's just not interested? Even though I don't know her that well, she has something about her that makes me blush and I don't have that very often. Thanks
In Like Flynn Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Should have said.....Can I have some beer with that foam!!!!
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