alwaysoverthinking Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 What if she just left, like a fart in the wind? Never contacted you? Never even said she's sorry? Just left you standing there, after she told you she'd be right back? It's easy to say she's a bitch, who needs her, but how it got to that point is what's more important. I'd rather have had a huge fight, and had her say I hate you, or I just don't want the same things, or something. But I didn't get any of that. 4 weeks before, we were on our way. Had the real thing. Making plans about weeks in advance. It was long distance, but it wouldn't have been for long. How did it spiral down so fast? This is brutal. And I'll never know, because I won't contact her. Haven't in 19 days. But I just want to know. So I can do things better, I guess. It's one thing to get dumped. It's another thing to get ditched.
Author alwaysoverthinking Posted October 21, 2010 Author Posted October 21, 2010 We were on a date. Yeah I had noticed something. The two weeks leading up, a lot less communication. Really short answers. Acting distant. Saw each other the week before, a lot less affectionate. Then she's texting her damn ex as we are leaving our date. I confront her about it. We talk. We work some things out. It's not a fight. She says wait right here, I see my friends I'll be right back. Nothing. Nothing bad happened to her. Just 4 weeks previous we slept together for the first time twice. Then she went back home. Talking all the time. Then the decline. Couldn't figure it out, but tried to give her the benefit of the doubt, even though I could feel it in my gut. Ex treated her like ****. He's a psycho. I believe that if a girl is all about one guy, she won't leave him for another. She was definitely all about me, then just less and less so. I've never seen a girl's interest drop like that in such a short span. So ridiculous. One lesson learned...if a girl isn't talking to you, don't talk to her. If she gets distant, go double distant. That's when you find out how interested she is.
Ajax Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 What if she just left, like a fart in the wind? Never contacted you? Never even said she's sorry? Just left you standing there, after she told you she'd be right back? It's easy to say she's a bitch, who needs her, but how it got to that point is what's more important. I'd rather have had a huge fight, and had her say I hate you, or I just don't want the same things, or something. But I didn't get any of that. 4 weeks before, we were on our way. Had the real thing. Making plans about weeks in advance. It was long distance, but it wouldn't have been for long. How did it spiral down so fast? This is brutal. And I'll never know, because I won't contact her. Haven't in 19 days. But I just want to know. So I can do things better, I guess. It's one thing to get dumped. It's another thing to get ditched. This type of thing happens all the time. Someone gets cold feet and bails. My ex wasn't quite so bad, she at least attempted an explaination even if it was a BS one. But she left out of the blue too. But in cases like this I think it shows the dumpers true colors. Usually it's not the first time they've done such a thing either. My advice is to stop looking for answers. You won't find any and it'll just drag out the recovery process. I know form experience.
LoveTNT Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 Haha, the fart part made me laugh. Thank you. Oh yeah I'm sorry that question mark is attacking right now, I want answers but I guess I got some already. Keep trucking. Forward.
alittlejaded Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Sad to say, but that seems to be the million dollar question-- why? I mistakenly thought that if I only knew the real reason it would bring me some type of closure, but seeing him again only opened up old wounds and left me with more questions. As time passes, it seems I am starting to experience some clarity out of my own situation. I don't think any explanation would satisfy me-- all I need to know now is that it ended. I think a better question to ask is what did you learn about yourself because I don't think we can get resolution from the other person. It has got to come from within.
Fouts Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 My advice is to stop looking for answers. You won't find any and it'll just drag out the recovery process. I know form experience. This is true and good advice. Some people are just too cowardly and weak of character to be confrontational on any level, even if it's just to say I'm not interested anymore. Sad, but true.
Idalis Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Sometimes you're just better off not knowing. No matter what you found out you wouldnt like it, b/c it would boil down to her not being in the picture. Just work on getting yourself better. thats all you can do!
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