Exit Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 Got dumped about a year and a half ago, so that's longer than our relationship even lasted. Was feeling better for a while, had days at a time where I didn't think about her. Then out of nowhere I started dreaming about her again. The dreams became so frequent and predictable that whenever I found myself spending time with her I would tell myself "I'm going to wake up soon and be very disappointed". Take this morning for example. Alarm went off at 4:45 to get up and go to the gym. Wasn't feeling it today. Turned off my cell phone alarm and went back to sleep. This is when I had the simplest dream of her being with me in my kitchen, deciding we would rather go out to eat instead of cooking something, and giving her a kiss. I can tell exactly what the fabric of her dress felt like as I touched her back while I leaned in to kiss her. Woke up from this dream, saw it was only an hour later, and suddenly had the motivation to still get to the gym before traffic got any heavier. Still has that much power over me to get me up and out of bed to get to the gym, so if I ever see her again I'll be in better shape. Did anyone see the most recent episode of The Office? The character Michael Scott has a situation where he decides to contact all his old girlfriends. He starts to realize he's guilty of romanticizing all his relationships. He was ready to marry all of them within days or weeks, took it extremely hard when the relationships ended, but upon revisiting them, realizes these women were totally wrong for him. Towards the end of the episode, he calls his one ex Holly, and starts leaving her a similar voicemail, saying he realizes they were totally wrong for each other. But he stops and realizes that he's lying to himself. Instead he tells her that they were different, there was something special about the way they could talk and joke around together, and he doesn't feel stupid for missing her. That's exactly how I feel. I've taken all the break-ups in my life very hard. But now I think back to some of these girls and practically shudder when I realize how bad the relationships were and how wrong we were for each other. But I have my own "Holly", the one who I don't think I'm romanticizing. I have never felt so close to another human being. I've never loved someone that much, before her or after her. Don't get me wrong, I've been doing my share of dating, some have been better than others, none like her though. What I wouldn't give to be one of those couples who somehow find each other again years down the line. I know it won't be me to try contacting her though. It would have to come from her. If it ever did happen, I think I would do backflips. I can honestly say between getting a million dollar lottery ticket in my lifetime or getting to be with her again, I would choose her without a doubt. So 99% of the time it's probably true, you have your ex on a pedestal, you're over-reacting about a breakup, you're romanticizing the entire situation, and you'll get over it. But what can you say when there's one girl none of that applies to? I still miss her close to 2 years later. I miss my "Holly".
shayan Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 hehehe, you're still romantiscizing her it's obvious. Not because I'm saying you're exaggerating her qaulity or personality, but because she dumped you, proabably completey tore your heart out and you still think she's the most amazing person in the world. Let her go, let yourself heal my friend, you need to stop wanting her so you can move on with your life.
Div Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I think you're still romanticizing. Everyone on this forum feels exactly the same way about their Ex, but we all don't have the same Ex do we? So what we found was not something so rare that it will never be found again. It will, just move forward with your life, become happy being single and you never know what may fall into your lap.
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