Magil Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 I've been sleeping with my friend for a few months now. Everything has been fine but recently I find myself feeling like I want a relationship with him but knowing that is quite possibly the dumbest thing ever. He's really unreliable, inconsiderate and lacks a considerable amount of depth. The sex is alright though like many men he isn't too concerned with my...needs and not to mention he puts his hand on my head when I go down on him.... The only time I feel happy about what we're doing is when I'm with him but even then I sometimes end up feeling pretty bad about myself. I wonder if I'm just being a girl and trying to make this into more than it should be...I just don't know what to do or say or act....any advice would be much appreciated.
tigressA Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 This is a no-brainer. The situation makes you feel bad about yourself; he isn't even concerned with your needs in the bedroom. Get out.
Titania22 Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 I wonder if I'm just being a girl and trying to make this into more than it should be...I just don't know what to do or say or act....any advice would be much appreciated. Hey Magil, I think you are just being a girl. It sounds very much like I have felt multiple times in life. Just keep reminding yourself of all the reasons why a relationship with this guy is a bad thing. Then whatever happens it won't hurt quite so much.
impz Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 This is a no-brainer. The situation makes you feel bad about yourself; he isn't even concerned with your needs in the bedroom. Get out. Agreed completely. Get out of it. I am trying to even find a decent reason to struggle on a different decision and I can't. TS, you should do well to get out of this poisonous FWB.
Awesome Username Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 You're not meant to be in FWBs. My advice is to leave him and find someone else, and never do a casual sexual fling again. I know it sounds hard because he makes you happy, but in the long run he's going to make you miserable. Find someone who respects and cares for you.
valpre Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 You're developing an emotional attachment to him by sleeping with him, which in turn makes you to want to have a relationship with him. But I think you already know that a relationship with him isn't feasible. He's really unreliable, inconsiderate and lacks a considerable amount of depth. The longer you stay in this situation the harder it's going to be to walk away.
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