iknow Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 so my ex's bday (he broke up with me a month ago) is in a couple days and i dont know whether to break NC for it. like he wants to be friends, and i dont, cause i want to be more than friends but i feel like if i just ignore his birthday it shows i dont care anymore. And i do care about him, but i just cant be friends. I guess i dont really know what i want to get out of this...
Am4Real Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 so my ex's bday (he broke up with me a month ago) is in a couple days and i dont know whether to break NC for it. like he wants to be friends, and i dont, cause i want to be more than friends but i feel like if i just ignore his birthday it shows i dont care anymore. And i do care about him, but i just cant be friends. I guess i dont really know what i want to get out of this... There would only be one good reason for sending him a celebratory HAPPY BIRTHDAY message and that would be reinitiating contact or continued communication with this EX. If that is not what you want then you will ignore his birthday. You might want to genuinely wish him well but honestly...do you want to have to deal with the consequences that will come with that contact?
stoploss11 Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 Absolutely not. 1 month is not enough time...
Leandro Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 you shouldn't since you still want to be more than friends. yea he might think you don't care. my ex left me two weeks before my birthday and said nothing so i know she doesn't give a damn about me, but thats just me.
TomerT Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 Just 11 days ago, I have the same dilemma. It was very (very) difficult but I completely ignored my x-gf birthday..and you know what ? I not regret it for a minute...You concerned that he may think that you don't care anymore , right ? He (and not you) should be concerned that you completely moved on and not care about him anymore. He should want to chase you even more after you ignore his bd. If not, probably he is not interested in getting back, and as you know you can not force anyone to love and want you, so you lose nothing here.
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