spartan1032 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 My GF of 3 yrs just left to go back to her ex husband. I guess he has money now and has changed from the creep she divorced 3 yrs ago. I met her online 3 yrs ago right after we had both divorced. Im 52 with 2 grown daughters both living on there own. She is 44 with 2 kids, daughter 21 from a previous relationship and a son 6 from the ex husband. We met online and talked for 3 months before we met. Her past was what you might say full of red flags that most any healthy person would of run from. But not me. Her mom has been married 4 times, both her bio dad and an adoptive dad abandoned her before the age of 8 and she hasnt seen or spoken to either since. She was drugged and raped by a bf at age 20 and acquired herpes. At 21 she had her daughter with a guy who beat her up a couple times. She then married the ex husband and was married for 11 yrs and he cheated on her. She told me all this before we even met. When we did meet it was major physical attraction. The sex was incredible. That pretty much blinded to me to what i was actually getting into. Her son had and has a lot of behavior issues. Her daughter disliked me only because i took her moms time away from her. She is an extremely immature 21 yr old. But even with all of that i was still drawn to the fire.
Woggle Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Decent men have that hero instinct and we want to rescue a woman but many of them are addicted to the drama. Next time try and look for a woman who already has her head screwed on straight. I married a together woman after being a trainwreck and it has certainly turned out well.
ShannonMI Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 My GF of 3 yrs just left to go back to her ex husband. I guess he has money now and has changed from the creep she divorced 3 yrs ago. I met her online 3 yrs ago right after we had both divorced. Im 52 with 2 grown daughters both living on there own. She is 44 with 2 kids, daughter 21 from a previous relationship and a son 6 from the ex husband. We met online and talked for 3 months before we met. Her past was what you might say full of red flags that most any healthy person would of run from. But not me. Her mom has been married 4 times, both her bio dad and an adoptive dad abandoned her before the age of 8 and she hasnt seen or spoken to either since. She was drugged and raped by a bf at age 20 and acquired herpes. At 21 she had her daughter with a guy who beat her up a couple times. She then married the ex husband and was married for 11 yrs and he cheated on her. She told me all this before we even met. When we did meet it was major physical attraction. The sex was incredible. That pretty much blinded to me to what i was actually getting into. Her son had and has a lot of behavior issues. Her daughter disliked me only because i took her moms time away from her. She is an extremely immature 21 yr old. But even with all of that i was still drawn to the fire. Co-dependancy is the first thing that comes to mind. You may be co-dependant. I'm no expert, but that's what I think.
redmelon Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Co-dependancy is the first thing that comes to mind. You may be co-dependant. I'm no expert, but that's what I think. That's instantly what I thought, as well. A codependent person gleans their feelings of self worth through "helping" and "fixing" their SO. Perhaps you attract broken people because it's how you feel good about yourself, subconsciously.
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