Scared & Lonely Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 After 2 year my boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago. he said he needed space (cliche) and that he felt our relationship was too intense for his age. We live about an hour away from eachother, so when we see eachother at weekends it takes up all our time. we'll sometimes go a weekend not seeing eachother so we could see our friends ect but he has only been working less than a year since he finished uni and he finds his job quite stressful as he's always busy. I understand his reasons and took it very gracefully, at the end of the day he can't help if he thinks it's not right, but obviously I am devastated and want him back. I am being very strong. On the Saturday he drove to come and speak with me, it was very emotional we were both crying, he first of all said can we have a month break i said no and that i'll take today that were breaking up and i'll be starting the process of moving on. That evening he text me to say he loves me and he's sorry and can't we try a months break, i didn't reply he sent another text asking me to please reply, of course I didn't. Then after 2 years of being together he has never put his profile picture on facebook as us two and then decides to on the day he dumps me and then pokes me as well. I have not retaliated in any way shape or form and not updated my facebook page at all. Hopefully it'll show him what it's like without me. I have spoken to his sister and mum, who are also devastated about our break up, they said that he loves me so much and is just confused and needs some time to sort his head out. I suppose all I can do is try to move forward and get on with things but deep down I am really hoping he'll coming back to me eventually. Only time will tell if he misses me enough to do something about it. He is very stubborn as am I and he tends to bottle his emotions up. So a small part of me is scared of missing my chance incase he thinks because ive totally cut contact he'll feel bad and just let me go because he's scared of hurting me again, but I know if he really wants me whats stopping him. I feel I have done everything right so far, but then I never completely sure of myself.
stillafool Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I'm so sorry for your pain. I feel you are doing the right thing by no contact at this point. Who wants to sit around for 30 days on pins and needles wondering if he will want you back after that time. You are right he will know what it is like to miss you at this point because this is what he asked for. Why does he think your relationship was too intense?
Oscar Wilde Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 (edited) Hi! I'm sorry too. You've done right and you must move on. Don't be scared, go no contact and read this post, it will help you a lot: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/ I've heard the same chicle one moth ago from my ex, it's only an excuse. Bests regards! Oscar Edited October 20, 2010 by Oscar Wilde
PegNosePete Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Like the others I'm sorry, and also think you're doing the right thing. If he loves you so much then he wouldn't need a "break". It's just a lame excuse. If he doesn't come crawling back begging within a day or so, get rid of him for good.
Eeyore79 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 he said he needed space (cliche) and that he felt our relationship was too intense for his age. What is his/your age?
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