tincanman99 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 What I see is me, me, me and more me. So what does she bring to the table that she is this shining beacon of light for being a woman.
Author irc333 Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 Yet another one here: I hope I do not sound mean just being honest not to waste my time or yours... If your not 5'9 or taller please do not take this wrong but do not write me... I am a very fun and exciting person to be around. Very Spontanous. I am looking for someone who is not about games. Looking for someone who shows affection and can laugh and have a good time out of any situation I enjoy the real things in life. I like going to the movies, lounges, dinners in different places , shopping... Or just a romantic evening watching movies @ home... Besides laughing, enjoying time with family & friends I am a big fan of Marilyn Monroe (red flag) LOVE her and always finding new portraits or quotes of her make my day (Yep, if you can't handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best.....a suicidal, drug poppin starlett who slept with the President is a great role model I suppose) I just moved to Orlando from Chicago ( born & raised in Chicago) Got tired of the harsh winters & horrible traffic jams. But I am back & forth time to time... I know just as any other female that it is NOT easy to meet someone online but when you actually meet or speak to someone and get to know them that is when you actually find out who that person is.................And see if there a connection! Also I am not looking for MARRIED/SEPERATED MEN who claim to be DIVORCED just because its convenient for you to say!!! Or for men that are on here looking to GET laid!!!!I am looking for a honest person that is kind to others, doesnt judge a book by its cover and can most important make ME laugh:) Funny Tall guys are my favorite.... Also PLEASE if you dont have a picture dont write to me!!!! Its bad enough to take chances even when you do see one on someones profile!!! For First Date she put: If you are not 5'9 or taller or are under the age of 28 PLEASE DO NOT WRITE ME!!! If your short and are mad do not write me calling me names ( I will only delete, laugh and block you so I dont care) if you dont have a life and want to still write nonsense thats on you. Also I am not on here to get married so YOU do NOT need to ask me 100 questions about what I do, where I been etc does that really matter for a date or to meet a potential new friend? ^^^^^ Okay, this part is the part that's crazy......what's her problem with being asked questions? How is she related this to marriage? Unless she's getting marriage proposals, I fail to see what her attitude is about. No do not invite me to your house pool, or at the Hilton Hotel where your staying for the weekend its NOT happening!!!! But if you are a Tall, Funny, well grounded person that is easy going and like to laugh and just have a good time then you are my type "Yes I'm a bit complicated; but the Best Things in life never come easy.Kisses One of my favorite quote's: "It's often just enough to be with someone. I don't need to touch them. Not even talk. A feeling passes between you both. You're not alone." ~Marilyn Monroe Okay, we GET it, that's TWICE you said that already about the height. Well, shame on the guys for calling her names in emails, they're just wasting their energy on her.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 And where exactly did I say that there's only the two extremes? Oh, right, you just imagined that part. Er, remember this comment? Better a good high maintenance woman than a boring easy-to-please one.
reservoirdog1 Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Someone here posted for their OKC profile, they'd add something to it (a list of negative things) she decided not to, and it was a good move...here's a VERY good example of what NOT to put in your profile: I have decided that I am sick of a few things. One I am sick of you guys writing things on your profile like please no crazy people, then you back that up with I give the girl my number and we text a few times and I hear nothing else. I am sorry to be the one to tell you this but if you have text back and forth a few times and talked on the phone and she isn't calling or returning your text, she doesn't like you!! She has realized that you aren't for her. This does not make her crazy this makes her smart because she is running for the hills, now if she only knew you were calling her crazy that would cement her decision in NEVER returning your call or text. (Chances are she is probably one of those women who flake, and stop texting/calling, and was offended by men who have a problem with this) Second, I am so sick and tired of seeing profiles that say please no drama. Here is a little piece of advice for you men. If you do not want drama date another man!!!! I am sorry to tell you that no matter what women you are dealing with she will bring drama. It just depends on how much drama. So get used to it, embrace it and find a woman with a little less drama then what you have dealt with and I guarantee you, you haven't dealt with real drama..... Third, I am sick to death of the men I turn down or do not return emails too. I am not a b*tch, I am selective and I have the right as does any other woman or man on this site to be selective in my search for love. If I am not returning your email I have read your profile and I am not interested. Why does it take a parade down Main Street and rainbows and clowns, to make it all better!! You were not rejected; rejection is a state of mind. You would had to of had me and been dating me in order to experience real rejection in the first place. Guess what we aren't dating and you aren't my boyfriend and I don't need to tell you why or give you reasons for my decisions. WTF, guys!!! Fourth, I am going to make this as crystal clear as I possibly can, I am looking for a guy anywhere in the world it doesn't matter, if there is chemistry and it's meant to be it will be. I am looking for a guy who is taller then 6'0, no older then 40, not any younger then 33. I don't care about the color of your eyes, your hair or anything else like that, please have all of your teeth, please be clean cut, please have a great sense of humor, please do not lie to me or think that if you tell me what I want to hear we will be fine, because we won't!! We are all adults here people, no need to make up fairytales. I am far from perfect and I understand that my partner will not be perfect either and I am more then okay with that…… As for me I am smart, funny and attractive. I have a sarcastic sense of humor. I know when to take things serious but at the same time I love to laugh. If you think you can handle a passionate, fun, sexy girl then BRING IT ON!!!! Agreed? My, doesn't she sound like a treat.
Author irc333 Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 Some women have an opening paragraph similiar to this one: Ok I'm going to start off by saying Thank you for looking and maybe reading my profile..lol..I don't want to offend anyone by all means but if I delete your profile without reading its b/c I have no interests and or any attraction however, just b/c we have something in common, absolutely does not mean we are a match!!!!....I'm NOT looking to waste my time or yours..if you are not in my criteria then please click next....I'm sorry if I sound SHALLOW,as I was told, but it is what it is and its my profile and but I'm not perfect and neither are you but I know what I want and looking for that fits in my life and if you dont like what I say then your personal comments mean nothing to me.... I've seen her profile pics, and I have to say, she does have a friggin' hot body for a 46 year old woman, bikini poses by the pool, a total babe. However, I think she's convinced self she IS shallow, and probably won't do anything to change it. By the way, she's been on the site for ages, and active, so that explains alot.
Titania22 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I am seeing how these profiles are doing nothing to help these women find a man they want. But I can understand there frustration, but getting attention from the men they aren't interested in. I think they should really work out what they want and then ask themselves where those men are, instead of posting negative stuff on a dating site. I am really happy I found this dating forum. When I posted my questions, I got some really good suggestions, which I am looking to try out. You guys are cool, arguing about high maintenance and low maintenance and what it really means. I think both titles have a negative stigma about them. I think they should be tossed out. Have a good night!
OceanGirl Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Lol I have been called "high maintenance" many times by men and it was almost always in the negative context
porter218 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 That profile is great!! :lmao: But I wouldn't write all that in mine...I will secretly be thinking it but not put it up for everyone to see. . If I did that I would be worried guys would think I am a negative person but I am not at all. The problem is she is actually writing this directed at the guys she isn't interested in. What is the point of that? If a guy thinks you are crazy because you stop texting him then so be it. I don't care what he thinks of me because I am not interested.
carhill Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 OG, have you ever tried something like this in your ads? If not, hey Like utterer said, it's a matter of personal preference. The disconnect for her, of course not being male, is that the very men who cause her to make most of the statements in her ad will continue to contact her and frustrate her. This is because...ta da...they don't *care*. IMO, save for a few exceptions, the *tone* of her ad will discourage good men who are seeking a LTR from contacting her. I actually liked what she had to say and agree with much of it, but *how* she says it is a harbinger of her core personality which is generally immutable. If I saw, on even the first date, that her real life persona matched up with the wall of text, give me the check and I'm outta here. But, then again, I'm an inch short of 6' and way older than 40
Art_Critic Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 (edited) My, doesn't she sound like a treat. She sounds like she has turned bitter towards online dating and should stop dating for a while till she gets her humor back. The only thing her profile is missing is how a person in her state would most likely treat a guy poorly and treat him like shiot. She just needs to put down the keyboard for a while and revisit making her a new profile after she loses her cynicism. I don't mean my post to sound mean as it isn't intended to be but she certainly has lost her way. 10-1 when she first started online dating her profile wasn't worded so negatively. Edited October 23, 2010 by Art_Critic
Art_Critic Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 The problem is she is actually writing this directed at the guys she isn't interested in. What is the point of that? That is a very good point....
Author irc333 Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 What kills me is, she puts all that stuff in her profile, and EXPECTS men not to respond based on what she has written: Ie - "DO NOT Email me if you're under 5'9", I will NOT RESPOND!" Either men will: 1. Completely ignore her, and email her as they would email ANY woman on a dating site. 2. Email her and try to come up with a good arguement of why they should go out with them, and meet them face to face themselves, because "Ya never know". In the past, I've been guilty of saying to them, "I see you're only 5'1", and you're looking for someone 6 feet, you flexible in that department" (Something I did in the past) There's this ONE profile that kind of irked me though....and well, was indeed an Irony...I see her signed in online every day actually. Here's what she wrote, it's even a contradiction (I should start a posta bout contradictory profiles, LOL) ------------------- If you're tired of superficial "silly" girls, if you're interested in someone genuine, intelligent, with a great sense of humor, and once in love with you, will make you feel deeply loved and appreciated every day..and I'm dead serious about that....then email me. ---------------------- I emailed this woman BASED on what she said RIGHT THERE. I said something pointing that particular aspect of her profile.... Something like: "It's nice to meet a woman who isn't one of those superficial silly girls, and yes indeed....I tend to avoid them like the plague, so it's a good thing I came across your profile.....etc, etc..(continued with the rest of the initial email). Then she responds something like, "Well, at the risk of SOUNDING like those superficial girls I've talked about, I have to say, sorry I'm not attracted" OUCH! And she could've shed a few pounds too, but I thought she had really pretty eyes and smile. What an Irony, eh? lol OG, have you ever tried something like this in your ads? If not, hey Like utterer said, it's a matter of personal preference. The disconnect for her, of course not being male, is that the very men who cause her to make most of the statements in her ad will continue to contact her and frustrate her. This is because...ta da...they don't *care*. IMO, save for a few exceptions, the *tone* of her ad will discourage good men who are seeking a LTR from contacting her. I actually liked what she had to say and agree with much of it, but *how* she says it is a harbinger of her core personality which is generally immutable. If I saw, on even the first date, that her real life persona matched up with the wall of text, give me the check and I'm outta here. But, then again, I'm an inch short of 6' and way older than 40
Author irc333 Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 Even if I was the guy she was looking for, I'd be turned off by it.....I would be thinking, "Man, how do these women leave the house in the morning?!" lol That profile is great!! :lmao: But I wouldn't write all that in mine...I will secretly be thinking it but not put it up for everyone to see. . If I did that I would be worried guys would think I am a negative person but I am not at all. The problem is she is actually writing this directed at the guys she isn't interested in. What is the point of that? If a guy thinks you are crazy because you stop texting him then so be it. I don't care what he thinks of me because I am not interested.
porter218 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Even if I was the guy she was looking for, I'd be turned off by it.....I would be thinking, "Man, how do these women leave the house in the morning?!" lol yea, I saw a guys profile that was like hers kinda. It just seemed that he was constantly on the defensive and entirely too worried about what he didn't want. I thought he was very attractive but the profile absolutely turned me off. You have to wonder 'well we know you have figured out what you don't want, but do you actually know what you DO want?'. Too much negative energy for my taste. He had emailed me several times but I couldn't bring myself to go out with him based on his profile. I mean this guy went on for 3 paragraphs about things he hates in women and what he will not put up with.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Even if I was the guy she was looking for, I'd be turned off by it.....I would be thinking, "Man, how do these women leave the house in the morning?!" lol Me too. I pass her "criteria" for height, but she fails my criteria for being self-obsessed, vacuous and bitchy. So if Tom Cruise emailed her, would she turn him down because he's about 5'6"? I've noticed the free datings sites are full of profiles like hers. Lots of attractive but very egotistical, bitter women with huge chips on their shoulders.
porter218 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 So if Tom Cruise emailed her, would she turn him down because he's about 5'6"? I would turn him down. I've learned the hard way to not date crazy men. The 5'6" is fine and loads of $ is great too...but crazy isn't cute.
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I would turn him down. I've learned the hard way to not date crazy men. The 5'6" is fine and loads of $ is great too...but crazy isn't cute. Ok, bad example. How about someone with his looks, but who's not a scientologist and egomaniac?
Knittress Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I agree that her message comes off as a little neurotic, but for an attractive woman, online dating can be a bit like being thrown in a seedy bar wearing a bikini. She's probably had a few too many 'wats up baby buzy tonite?" one-liners from a lot of sloppy-looking men. I think she's just trying to get them to leave her alone (not possible), without realizing how she comes across. She might NOT be as b!tchy as she seems, perhaps only not as online dating battle-hardened.
porter218 Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 I agree that her message comes off as a little neurotic, but for an attractive woman, online dating can be a bit like being thrown in a seedy bar wearing a bikini. She's probably had a few too many 'wats up baby buzy tonite?" one-liners from a lot of sloppy-looking men. I think she's just trying to get them to leave her alone (not possible), without realizing how she comes across. She might NOT be as b!tchy as she seems, perhaps only not as online dating battle-hardened. Perhaps....or maybe she is just trying to put everything on front street.. 'lets save each other the trouble of pretending to be layed back and low-maitinence. I'm a biotch and I am looking for a guy who appreciates a biotch'
Author irc333 Posted October 24, 2010 Author Posted October 24, 2010 Saw this one, not sure if it's worth noting though, kind of touches on a little less than unrealistic expectations, she'd age 31, single never married and no kids * PLEASE DO NOT MESSAGE ME IF YOU MEET THE FOLLOWING CRITERIA * * DIVORCED * HAVE CHILDREN * HATE ANIMALS * ARE A NEGATIVE PERSON * ARE LOOKING FOR AN INTIMATE ENCOUNTER * MESSAGE ME WITH OUT READING MY PROFILE * SHOULD BE BETWEEN THE AGES OF 28-35 I'm 38, she's 31....think I'd be entirely out of the running....but this DOES bring up a legit question.....if this woman met me at a BBQ, friends get together, B-day party with the neighbors. She'd probably gladly date me, why? Because she wouldn't even know my age, and probably not know my age until probably past the 1st date. I like the "Message me without reading my profile" that statement is actually a Paradox (hope that's the right term)....because men that do email her, well, if they don't meet the certain criteria (has been divorced already, has kids, falls slightly outside of the age range....well, they messaged her anyway, and she can't do a danged thing about it. LOL Just think, how sad online dating has become, it's become so impersonal...that it forces a person into being pretty much inflexible, as opposed to, like I said, you meet them in a casual, stress free enviroment like a pool party, and all those criteria go straight out the window. Because, the great thing about that is, you're getting to know them for them, without having to worry about such criteria, because they never really matter when you're too people chit chatting over drinks at a party. *Sigh* isn't that nice?
porter218 Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 * PLEASE DO NOT MESSAGE ME IF YOU MEET THE FOLLOWING CRITERIA * * DIVORCED * HAVE CHILDREN * HATE ANIMALS * ARE A NEGATIVE PERSON * ARE LOOKING FOR AN INTIMATE ENCOUNTER * MESSAGE ME WITH OUT READING MY PROFILE * SHOULD BE BETWEEN THE AGES OF 28-35 I'm 38, she's 31....think I'd be entirely out of the running....but this DOES bring up a legit question.....if this woman met me at a BBQ, friends get together, B-day party with the neighbors. IDK... that word should makes me think she is mildly flexible on that one.
Disillusioned Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 Better yet, just chuck the whole profile thing. Buy a Realdoll and kiss rejection good riddance!
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 * PLEASE DO NOT MESSAGE ME IF YOU MEET THE FOLLOWING CRITERIA * * DIVORCED * HAVE CHILDREN * HATE ANIMALS * ARE A NEGATIVE PERSON * ARE LOOKING FOR AN INTIMATE ENCOUNTER * MESSAGE ME WITH OUT READING MY PROFILE * SHOULD BE BETWEEN THE AGES OF 28-35 Well she failed one of my criteria - "Knows what the caps lock key is for"
BobSacamento Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 She's just keeping it real. Can't really fault her for that. More importantly, what does she look like?
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