haveyopick1 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 (edited) I'm not sure what to think. I just "nexted" a woman who SUPPOSEDLY was really into me, but she was "seeing someone". Turns out it was true, her friend showed me pics of her and the douchebag. But her friend also told me how "gorgeous" she thought I was, even though she had a boyfriend. I tried and tried for about a month to progress with this woman, but it was going nowhere. Whenever I flirted, she would either change the subject OR tell me I was not acting "appropriately" and to please stop. Ugh. I finally just had enough and told her a few days ago "I like you but I'm attracted to you, so I don't think we can be friends. I'm sorry". She never replied (oh well!). Not to sound conceited but Im actually not a bad looking dude, so I can buy into that she was attracted to me like her friend told me she was. But I'm wondering...do you buy her excuse that she was attracted to me but wouldnt cheat on her OR do you think she is full of it, and either was never that attracted to me, OR that she was into me, but somehow I messed up somewhere along the line? And then she decided to put a dress on me and try to turn me into one of her girlfriends instead of a boyfriend or f*ck buddy? I am at a loss as to why a woman who is supposedly attracted to me would text me every other day, call me, etc. yet when I made a move to advance she'd shut me down. She could have AT LEAST flirted back a little, if only to say "I wanna show you Im attracted, even though im with my right now. I want you to know youre an option down the road!"...but nope. She just REFUSED to flirt back. YET SHE TEXTED CONSTANTLY! Ugh. Whats the deal? I just dont buy the bit. If a woman is attracted to guy, boyfriend or not I think they are just like guys (dogs) and would JUMP at the chance to screw someone theyre attracted to. Am I wrong on that? So my question is: Was the crap just an excuse for her NOT to screw me, or do you actually buy into that reason? And if you buy into it WHY would she text me constantly? *scratches head* Edited October 20, 2010 by haveyopick1
xpaperxcutx Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 The problem is all the generalization. If anybody's action conflicts with what they say, then the general consensus should be moving on to another date. Don't hold it against all women just because one decided to be flakey. Also, this experience should say alot about you a person. Do you generally put up with this kind of behavior? If you don't appreciate others using you a vessel for cheating the smart thing to do would be saying ' sayonara' on the first note. By even responding to her texts, you're just being doormat.
utterer of lies Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I am at a loss as to why a woman who is supposedly attracted to me would text me every other day, call me, etc. yet when I made a move to advance she'd shut me down. She likes the attention you give her, but not you.
Cracker Jack Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Nah, there's plenty of good women out here. I also believe this woman just appreciated the attention she received from you. It is odd how some people can constantly give hints in general, yet, for some reason, just start acting funny whenever you decide to show some interest in them. I'm sure it has nothing to do with you messing up somewhere down the line--some people just....change or show their true colors after a certain point. It's tough, bro. You just have to overlook this woman now.
carhill Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 OP, use this good information to unceremoniously disconnect women who display similar disconnects between words and actions in the future. Nip them in the bud right away, prior to investing enough care to cause a thread like this to appear. Such women have vast experience in how to gain attention and they have a plethora of horny men to choose amongst. Don't be one of them. If you want to assign a label to make the product easier to find on the shelf, call it 'broken'. In reality it doesn't matter what the label is, but, for identification purposes, that's as good as any. IMO, globally, no, all women do not cheat, but be very aware that nearly all women *can* cheat, and easily and quickly; all it takes is a simple 'yes'; no planning, no forethought, no arduous effort. Be mindful of that when making your choices from amongst the products on the shelf. Good luck
flying Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 IMO, globally, no, all women do not cheat, but be very aware that nearly all people *can* cheat, and easily and quickly; all it takes is a simple 'yes'; no planning, no forethought, no arduous effort. Fixed. Yes, I know it's pedantic. But whatever, it bears repeating.
carhill Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 The thread is about women. Start your own thread about men. YOU DON'T NEED to fix anything about me I hope we understand each other.
flying Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 The thread is about women. Start your own thread about men. YOU DON'T NEED to fix anything about me I hope we understand each other. Oh, we definitely do. I've understood you for a while.
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