Shyguy0898 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Hello any advice/thoughts would be apreciated. Meet a young lady though mutual Friends in a pub i go drinking occasionaly. This girl makes it know she likes me. Initially we go out in a 4, A couple and me & her. after a few weeks we finally go out on her own but through both out limited dating experience & one reason & another it does not work out to well. More through still going to the same pub after a few weeks we somehow remain friends and still go out to various nights in the group for few months or two i am happy with that. This carries on a for a few months we just remain friends even though I am talked into turning up quite a few times (had the promise of a kiss one night but nothing ever materialsed) I never tried it on though so partly my blame but i never really got much encouragement The mutual friends we go out with move away. We keep in contact texting for a few weeks I ask her out but she declines as she has to get up early next day. (if this was previous with the group of 4 I am sure she would have been out) obviously i am a little dissapointed we still text quite a bit & i finally go out with her . The 2nd night goes really well i get a thanks for a lovely night & we arrange to go out at the weekend & mention possible other future events we could do. The weekend does not happen as i am working away. I get a nice text both nights as she is out & texts me she is calling me darling now. The following weekend invite her out she declines reason being she has to get up early & has recently got a new puppy. If this has been before when we would be out in the 4 I am pretty certain she would have been out. I text her that night she does not reply.I text her again cple of days later jokingly to say how rude & ask if she is ignoring me she says no she has been really busy that wkend. A couple of days later She posts on her fbook off a problem she has with something i text her help i get no reply. I invite ask her what she is doing on Wednesday as she does not work that night sometimes I get the reply i am going out with work. I really like this girl but i may have known her 6 months but i thought i was finally getting somewhere but it looks like she is not so keen now. Maybe i am coming across a bit needy but i was just trying to help and make it known i am keen. I will Point out a few facts as well, I am not being used for a meal ticket she pays at least her share. She has to work about 5 nights a week so is difficult to see here to often. I have a nickname of a famous actor i found out certain friends she has @ work call her the nickname of this actor's girlfriend. Maybe i am being a bit predictable and whenever she asks me to come out i never hardly ever decline. Do i give her some space?ask her what she is upto this weekend? or just leave her alone for a week or 2? Or just forget it as its a non starter. Or am i being a bit to full on & should just play it cool & just concentrate on enjoying myself instead.
Andy_K Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 (edited) Six months? I've seen tectonic plates move faster than that. She made it known she liked you early on. That was the time to go for it. One or two 'double dates' with your friend-couple then some time with her alone. What exactly went wrong when just the two of you went out together? Realistically, she has probably decided that her first impression was wrong and that you're not a potential boyfriend after all. You are now just a friend instead. You could think of this as being in the friend-zone, if you like. It's possible things will change, and I could be wrong and she's just super-shy and super-busy, but I wouldn't hold your breath if I were you. If she doesn't seem interested in dating you, and if she doesn't flirt back if you try to flirt with her (have you tried this?) then she's not interested. Edited October 20, 2010 by Andy_K
that girl Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Have you kissed this girl or even tried to? After 6 months, she is either interested or she isn't but you seem to keep dancing around the issue (waiting for her to make the move?)
Author Shyguy0898 Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 no i have never tried 2 kiss her. the 2nd time i went out with her i as going to. but we ended up later in the night inn her local there was other people then and i did not get chance to as i had 2 leave earlier than her. When i went out b4 it was only 1 night. went out nothing to good but not bad there was no kiss @ the end of the night though & the conversation didn't flow so well either. there was not awkward pauses but it didn't flow. Conversations are now loads better now we know each other a lot better.
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