NY87 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Hi everyone, I just need some advice and normally would ask friends, but to be honest I'm a tad embarassed to admit to them I'm trying online dating. Anyways, I've been casually trying the online dating scene for a couple of weeks. I'm on a dating site and see a guy I'm interested in, so I sent him an email on Friday, we exchanged a couple of emails then exchanged cell phone numbers that same day. We exchanged some texts friday evening, saturday afternoon,through a text, he asked me if he could call me, I said yes. He didn't but then called me the next day and explained why he hadn't called, we talked for about 20 mins (this was the first phone call) just casual stuff and exchanged more texts later that day. Monday, hadn't heard anything from him, so I texted him. He told me he was with friends and would call me later, hours went by and I thought he was blowing me off so just forgot about it. well he called me while he was with his friends to apologize for not calling sooner and told me he didn't want me to think he was blowing me off and would call me later when he got home. He did call me, but i was tired from lack of sleep the night before and the phone woke me up so the conversation was short but at the end of it he said I could text/call him the following day if I wanted to. Yesterday (Tuesday), I sent him a text just saying hi, how's your day going in the middle of the day. He didn't text me back until later, while I was out with a friend, and we exchanged a few texts. He does work full time and go to scool so I just assume he's busy most of the day and he knows when I get out of work so all of the communication on the 2 weekdays have been a couple hours after I'm off work. But during all of this, he hasn't asked/suggested that we meet yet. I mean, he seems like maybe he is interested since he actually calls and apologized when he didn't call when he said he would. It's been 4 days since the first email and 2 days since we stated talking on the phone. Have I just not given him enough time yet? Should I maybe suggest that we do something? Also, I only initiate contact through text and give him the option to call me if he wants to. Should I be trying to initiate phone calls to or let him do the calling? I've just not done the online dating scene much so I'm very unsure and need advice. I am very interested in meeting him because from the limited contact we've had he seems like a good guy and I'd like to see if we click in person. And I've read article saying the first meet should be set up after the first phone call and also if after a week of communication, he hasn't asked, he's never going to. Hopefully that's not the case because I would hate for this to end before it has a chance to really start.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 With all this texting back and forth, the fire is all but simmering out. How about you make the first move and suggest the first date? I'm sure he'll really appreciate the gesture.
that girl Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 This post is kind of hard to read with long sentences and only one paragraph. I kind of wonder if he could already be in a relationship. It raises a red flag to repeatedly say you'll call and then not call. But then it has only been 4 days.
daphne Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I wouldn't suggest you initiate anything. Wait for him, since you don't know his interest level. Also, if it's only been 2 days since the last call, I think you may be a little impatient. Sometimes guys go slow because they don't want to scare off a girl that may not yet be ready to meet. If this goes on for another 3-4 days, then you have valid question of whether or not he's truly interested. One guy blew me off (texted to tell me) and then again didn't call the weekend he said he would. Then 2 days after the weekend texted and said he still wanted to meet. He has been nexted 10 times over. He has since emailed me and asked me waht happened. I don't have time for wishy washy guys. There are 200 more and a few of them really do want to meet. I know it's easier said than done when you think one guy has more potential than others, but realize that you don't have any idea if this guy is at all how you imagine him to be and don't get worked up about it til after you meet. until then it's just a profile.
Author NY87 Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 He called this afternoon and asked me to go out with him this weekend. Thanks for the insight, it was very helpful and will keep it in mind.
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