loverofloveandstuff Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 - I went out with a guy. - I broke up with him. He needed space. - Fast forward a couple of months and we become very close platonic friends. Bestfriends. It's been nearly 2 years that we've been this close. - No interest in him WHATSOEVER. Never did I imagine that this could develop. I thought of it as 'been there, done that.' - Discussed all of my many relationship problems with him. Vice versa. - Told me a couple of times when drunk that he still thinks I'm 'hot as hell' but he's 'totally over me'. Never tried to come on to me. Ever. - Lately he's expressed interest in another girl. He has done so many times in the past but this is the very first time I've feltjealous. Not sure if I should risk our friendship by letting him know my feelings... The issue is, I can't distinguish whether I have genuine feelings for this guy, or I'm just being selfish and protective and attention seeking... I might add, that I'm still seriously hung up and in love with another guy that has been stringing me along for over a year (although I have dated several other people within that time also). Bestfriend knows all this. I'd really like to hear any stories of anybody who has been in a similar predicament.
Author loverofloveandstuff Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 (edited) I just had a conversation with my bestfriend about the girl he likes. I told him to go for it and she sounds like an awesome chick and to just be upfront with her. I said that she probably wants what he wants... a relationship. He's been friends with benefits with her for awhile. I didn't care at all. The fact that he actually LIKES this girl now and wants to make something more out of it is what is making me crazy jealous. I got off the phone with him about half an hour ago. I was thinking of sending him a text saying 'Okay, so I might be a bit jealous...' What do you think? I'm seeing him on the weekend. Should I wait till then to say something in person? Not sure if I have the balls to. EDIT: Okay, so I've thought about it some more. And how does this sound as something to say when I see him next: 'I'm not saying this with any agenda or specific intention... but when you were talking about Alice the other day, I actually felt kinda jealous. And it's weird because I never usually feel that way when you talk about girls.... Just thought it was weird and you should know.' Edited October 20, 2010 by loverofloveandstuff
utterer of lies Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 'I'm not saying this with any agenda or specific intention... but when you were talking about Alice the other day, I actually felt kinda jealous. And it's weird because I never usually feel that way when you talk about girls.... Just thought it was weird and you should know.' Don't. Seriously. Just don't.
xpaperxcutx Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I wouldn't bother giving him the ego stroke. Really? You're hot enough not to " f--"? Sheesh, talk about condescending. You should find some other " hot' guy to hang out with. Let's see how he feels?
Cee Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I wouldn't tell him. I feel jealous sometimes, but I don't share it with anyone. My jealousy is my issue that I explore on my own. And I believe jealousy does not equal love. It means something else like insecurity or fear. The feeling will pass. Why ruin a good friendship over it?
Author loverofloveandstuff Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 Thanks for the replies everyone. Yeah, I'm not usually (EVER) one to make the first move or put myself out there. And I definitely shouldn't if I'm not even sure what I want to gain out of it. You're right Cee. Jealousy does not equal love but I have mistaken the two in the past. I'm guessing the feeling will pass and I'm just being silly. Definitely wouldn't want to a ruin our friendship over this. Thankyou for knocking some sense into me! I think a reality check was all I needed.
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