naya1 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 well this.. to be honest, its hard to admit but this guy was nice for the most part, just when he decided to cut it off (sadly, not his schlong) he was condescending, self absorbed and insensitive. the way it was executed was pretty poor and stupid. there was no hint, no warning. things were ok and then one day boom. i honestly dont get it. and i asked him for a "reason" and he was like, give me a week and i'll tell u, and i said **** that. i dont want another week. whats weird is this guy said "i never said i stopped loving" and he said **** like when are u going back to msn, i mean this guy is a total freakazoid of sorts..he doesnt get it..EVERYTHING CHANGED BOZO. i know he will be butthurt if i dont greet him, and its already 7 pacific time, i tried to order a piza for him but i got a call from the deliv guy saying i need to be there at his house for the credit card. seriously? well i honestly think i dont want him back, i just feel so victimized and off course injured. should i greet him a happy b or just **** it?
LoveTNT Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Missy, read my pathetic thread, where it explains how I contacted my ex for his bday this weekend and it didn't go so good. But I was honest with my heart I did it. Although he refused to speak right now because he was " angry andfelt rejected" and I got somewhat crushed, I did learn something from it. He's still being a rehtard.
bestrong Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I am telling you NO even though I know I will be asking the same question in less than 2 months. Don't open the wound and think it's not going to hurt, it will hurt like a ***** whether he replies or not.
USMCHokie Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 No don't do it Agreed. I was stupid enough to do it this past summer after almost a year of NC...it accomplished absolutely nothing...and you seem to have reached the point where you recognize that this guy should not be in your life, so it's time for NC and no birfday greeting...
Author naya1 Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 OK i got a 1 second voice mail from him, meaning dominos probably left him a note saying they tried to deliver the pizza but nobody was there to receive it, cause i put my callback number there. thank u guys, i have read it up online that i should greet him but i needed more explanation than a no, as well as a follow up story. he is the only guy i begged..to come back to me. but now i see the light and i was living in a fog the whole time. i also have noticed a surge of breakups happening around October or September, prior to thanksgiving and Christmas as well as an incoming valentines next year. maybe so they don't have to introduce people they no longer want in their lives. people can always let go of the ones they don't love anymore, but it should be done in a humane manner. people are still people, no matter how rough they are or how tough they seem. thanks again
PegNosePete Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 tl;dr The answer to the question in the subject is NO! The rest of what you wrote is irrelevant. The answer to this question is always NO. The circumstances don't matter.
Username37 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 No. Naw. Nay. Hell naw. **** no. Ye....no.
HighPlainsDrifter Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I went through this experience exactly 2 weeks ago to the day. I thought and thought about it, several times, but I never said anything for my ex's 30th. I still haven't heard from her since then, and thought that I might. Halfway through week 7 of NC now. That would have broken my NC streak. It was really hard, but I think not saying anything is the right thing to do. The ball is in their court. I think no is the right answer, for your own sake. It just shows them you are still on the hook and remembering them. Even though you might be, I guess the general opinion on here is that you can't show that. I know what you're going through though and it's difficult. Try to stay strong and best wishes, HPD Yup, it's hard though.
Cee Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I think ex's birthdays should be celebrated with girls/guys nights out or buying oneself a nice present. Or if the breakup is recent, a good cry with a trusted friend.
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