health Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 How do you prevent from slipping into self destructive behaviours? I was in a bookstore freaking out. I was talking to a girl I'm half way seeing - and it's just a mess - I was so vunerable - like I thought I had the perfect girl - my 5 year relationship - now this girl I talk to has cheated in the past, I don't realy respect her, but I feel so alone if I don't. I try to talk to girls, none reciprocate - or they do at first - then I find they have a boyfriend - I don't step into that zone even though my relationship ended that way. It's like I'm at extremes - trying to stick to my principles - but I don't see results - I then drank like 8 beers, went to a strip club - and the strippers as fake as they are - gave me some comfort. What I would do to just have a good girl to be with and share the good parts and painful ones in my life. It's been almost 2 years since the break up, and it's still challenging because I find it so hard to find a quality girl. I bumped into someone who told me they saw my ex - and how her new bf looks like a drugged out loser, couldn't even walk straight - and she looks frumpy and like she's changed. It's just challenging when you thought you had it all - and you lose it then grieve...I will focus on what I appreciate, and I'm happy about.
naya1 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 (edited) er have u tried to stop thinking about the good parts of the relationship? theres the good and the bad, focus on the bad rearrange ur furniture, ur room can u date back to before u met them i know this sounds funny, but in superman 1 the end part there lois actually died cause the ground opened up beneath her car..and superman was too late or something. so he went to see his dad in the skies and he flew across the whole globe and for some reason, he turned back time maybe u can turn back time, to before everything happened, before u met her. im trying to do that. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7uLiondNBSU Edited October 20, 2010 by naya1
LoveTNT Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Haha this title made me laugh, sorry not in a mean way it was just funny. Take care of yourself, stop running.
Author health Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 er have u tried to stop thinking about the good parts of the relationship? theres the good and the bad, focus on the bad rearrange ur furniture, ur room can u date back to before u met them i know this sounds funny, but in superman 1 the end part there lois actually died cause the ground opened up beneath her car..and superman was too late or something. so he went to see his dad in the skies and he flew across the whole globe and for some reason, he turned back time maybe u can turn back time, to before everything happened, before u met her. im trying to do that. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7uLiondNBSU I totally agree with what you're saying - I keep thinking about the perfectness of it - when in reality - she hung out with a 40 year old man who liked her, smoked, grade 9 educated, couldn't hold a job, actually punched me in the face once, threw a knife close to me - hit the door, caught her in lies. Wow that feels better! It's just cause I recently broke contact and started looking at her pics - which I didn't in days, so I'm good. I see what you're saying about turning back time as well - happy as a single. Thank you!
Author health Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 Haha this title made me laugh, sorry not in a mean way it was just funny. Take care of yourself, stop running. Looking at it - it is pretty funny! There was honestly so much pain behind that day. I will try to make better decisions. It's just I feel no girl likes me - and I love myself and want to share myself - but I feel like no girl likes the real part of me that I'm confident in - my style, my creativity. - One did but she's a liar. I have fiath I'll meet a good girl.
jeff2321 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Looking at it - it is pretty funny! There was honestly so much pain behind that day. I will try to make better decisions. It's just I feel no girl likes me - and I love myself and want to share myself - but I feel like no girl likes the real part of me that I'm confident in - my style, my creativity. - One did but she's a liar. I have fiath I'll meet a good girl. You need to improve your self-image and believe that you have something to offer women. What are ways of doing that? Workout... go to the gym and get really buff. Learn how to dance.... for example I'm taking salsa lessons and I'm dancing with some really great (and hot) women at times. Take some classes at a community college. I am going to jump out of an airplane in 4 days for the first time in my life and I'm scared ****less, but I'm going to face it and get through it... just like I'm going to get over my ex that decided to leave me. Hope that helps. Jeff
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