hollywood292 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Long story short, got dumped out of the blue late July, have been in NC since he broke up with me ( which I'm surprised I've had the strength to do) He's called me once but I didn't respond, and he hasn't tried since. I've been doing better than expected, don't have the urge to go in contact, stayed away from his facebook, still miss him occasionally but overall, I think I'm moving on (atleast really slowly). Logged onto skype today, I haven't logged on in awhile but I noticed he took me off of his contacts cause its showing up as if he's not a mutual friend anymore. Why is this bothering me? I'm just angry for the most part and a little hurt over something as stupid as this. I guess secretly I thought I could fall back on Skype to ever reach contact with him again. Ugh guess I'm not as over him as I thought I was if I'm upset over this...
Beeotch Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Long story short, got dumped out of the blue late July, have been in NC since he broke up with me ( which I'm surprised I've had the strength to do) He's called me once but I didn't respond, and he hasn't tried since. I've been doing better than expected, don't have the urge to go in contact, stayed away from his facebook, still miss him occasionally but overall, I think I'm moving on (atleast really slowly). Logged onto skype today, I haven't logged on in awhile but I noticed he took me off of his contacts cause its showing up as if he's not a mutual friend anymore. Why is this bothering me? I'm just angry for the most part and a little hurt over something as stupid as this. I guess secretly I thought I could fall back on Skype to ever reach contact with him again. Ugh guess I'm not as over him as I thought I was if I'm upset over this... No one wants to feel disposable and I think things like this hurt because you feel like you go from being an important person to someone disposable, it is a blow to the ego and heart. You go through different milestones until you're completely healed. Everyday it gets better and then little things happen to show you your true progress. Out of sight out of mind is easy, no contact is easy, but it is once you are faced with the person that you TRULY see how far you've come. Nothing to feel bad about...you'll get to a point one day when even the smallest or largest thing won't matter. I too was angry at myself today as it has been over a year since my ex and I split (except that we go for periods of NC then he shows up trying to reconcile but runs off, has done this about 3 times). This summer after his last fiasco I decided that it was the crossroads and once and for all I was moving forward and I surely haven't looked back, except today I heard that my parents saw him out with a female (his gf I am assuming). I was surprised that I felt a tinge of something.....GLAD that it wasn't sending me into a panic/fury/deep hurt as before but of course I was a litle angry that I was bothered at allllll. Be gentle with yourself though....I take it as a milestone and that each time as I move forward, these things will come up and I will be fine. You will be fine too. It is actually easier to be over someone than it is to be over the hurt; I have learned that! That the feelings you feel sometimes are not because you are pathetic and want the person back but just a genuine hurt that would bother you just as if you had a friend who you had drama with and things ended awkwardly.
SadGirl23 Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 i know what you mean... don't know what advice to give you but only to say you are not the only one and that i hope we both can get thru this
jokesoflife Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 No one wants to feel disposable and I think things like this hurt because you feel like you go from being an important person to someone disposable, it is a blow to the ego and heart. You go through different milestones until you're completely healed. Everyday it gets better and then little things happen to show you your true progress. Out of sight out of mind is easy, no contact is easy, but it is once you are faced with the person that you TRULY see how far you've come. Nothing to feel bad about...you'll get to a point one day when even the smallest or largest thing won't matter. I too was angry at myself today as it has been over a year since my ex and I split (except that we go for periods of NC then he shows up trying to reconcile but runs off, has done this about 3 times). This summer after his last fiasco I decided that it was the crossroads and once and for all I was moving forward and I surely haven't looked back, except today I heard that my parents saw him out with a female (his gf I am assuming). I was surprised that I felt a tinge of something.....GLAD that it wasn't sending me into a panic/fury/deep hurt as before but of course I was a litle angry that I was bothered at allllll. Be gentle with yourself though....I take it as a milestone and that each time as I move forward, these things will come up and I will be fine. You will be fine too. It is actually easier to be over someone than it is to be over the hurt; I have learned that! That the feelings you feel sometimes are not because you are pathetic and want the person back but just a genuine hurt that would bother you just as if you had a friend who you had drama with and things ended awkwardly. Hey beetoch , I always read all your post, like always you say the right thing. I wonder how are you doing now in you life now?
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