Confusedalways Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I get that texting a lot with someone you met online before you meet in person is a bad thing.. setting up expectations, so on and so forth. But is it a bad thing in every case? I have known this guy for a few months [in person if that wasn't clear]- each in small increments. We became friendly. Recently he asked me out on a first date for next week. We have been texting quite a bit. I am really enjoying it. I've read so many bad things about texting a lot before the date and having it wreck everything so I'm a little scared- because I liked this guy in person and I like him in text, too. Am I going to be screwed?
audrey_1 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Well no, I don't think it's bad in every case. That would be a bit harsh, but just make sure not to have any expectations based on cryptic sentences in two dimensions. Seeing someone in person, hearing their voice, seeing their gestures will add a whole new dimension. Keep an open mind and just stay in the moment.
Sivok Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 What Audrey said. Texting alone, no matter how strong the rapport, wont always mirror the person in question. Also, with over texting, those moments where the texts don't come as fluently will begin triggering anxieties on both sides.
Cee Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I have mixed feelings about pre-date texting. Sometimes before a first date, I'll end up texting a guy a lot. And it can be fun and builds up anticipation. Then after the date, the texting drops off quite a bit. That can feel confusing, but I think it's normal and doesn't necessarily mean he lacks interest. My most extreme case of texting (hours and hours of it) also turned into a 1st date from hell (got drunk and passed out during date). Since then, I've developed a superstition that lots of texting means the date will flop. I don't think that's necessarily true, but that's my thought now. I avoid texting too much now before the 1st date. I'd rather more texting after we meet.
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