Mutant Debutante Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Say you have been dating somebody new and you really like them/they really like you, you've had the exclusive talk already and see each other whenever it's possible, but it's still very new. When do you introduce them to your kid(s)? Esp. if a previous relationship ended because of the kid and the kid knew it and had felt bad about it. Also, how do you handle the holidays with family and new person, if you've only been together a few months?
tigressA Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I assume that this guy knows about your situation. In that case, since it's still "very new", I would wait another couple of months. Since those months would include major holidays, do your own thing during those times. How far were you in the last relationship when it ended due to the kid being introduced?
Author Mutant Debutante Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 (edited) I assume that this guy knows about your situation. In that case, since it's still "very new", I would wait another couple of months. Since those months would include major holidays, do your own thing during those times. How far were you in the last relationship when it ended due to the kid being introduced? A while ago an old bf moved back to town, looked me up, and we started dating again. He already knew my sister and was not surprised when I told him she was living with me now, so introducing them did not seem like a big thing, they already knew each other. Error in judgment on my part, I guess. After about 4 months of him seeing what it was like to date me as an adult who was responsible for kids, and him coming by and spending time with us as a family almost every weekend, he decided he wanted more freedom to be wild or whatever and he bailed. He broke up with me on my answering machine and my little sister was the one who played the message . She was pretty bummed, not because she liked him so much but because she thought she was a burden to me. I have been seeing this new guy almost 2 months and I'm really optimistic about this one even though it's early days. He knows my sisters live with me and knows I have custody, but he has not met the little one (he has met my middle sister who is in college). I was considering having him over for dinner sometime next month, but trying to keep it casual. Feeling ambivalent about it though. I want to be sure I'm sensitive to my little sister. At the same time I don't want to overthink everything either. I wouldn't have him over for family-only stuff Christmas Eve and Christmas morning, it's too soon. We have a traditional Friends Thanksgiving every year for people who won't be with family for whatever reason, and it lasts all day, and we meet a bunch of friends on Christmas Night for Chinese food. I am thinking about inviting him to those, even though I know it's a ways away which probably means I'm overthinking already. I am spending Halloween with my sisters only, but I am also going to a Halloween party with him the day before (yeah I consider Halloween a big holiday ). Edited October 19, 2010 by Mutant Debutante
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