reknown29 Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Finally I am letting her go. My ex had left her things at my place. She was doing this so she could still see me. It was an excuse to come over still. She meant this to be nice and not just cut off the ties between us. While she had good intentions, this was killing me everytime she would come over. Especially since she is sweet. She also, however has a side to her where she is quick to run rather than talk things out. She would block out communication and believe only what she wanted to believe. She could not listen at all. Its difficult but I am having her get her things out of the place and I am going on with my new life as a single male. I will miss her. It will be hard to top her outer beauty but I will survive. Life is too short to spend it with heart breakers. People who are not willing to put a great effort into making a relationship work. It is not easy and it will never be perfect. People dont seem to get this. They expect it to be perfect and they run when it isnt.
cozenedindigo Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 amen to that. you deserve to feel accepted just as you are. you don't need anyone who makes you feel inadequate. often people who pursue some impossible ideal really can't commit to *anyone* they are with, and let the current partner feel inadequate. not fair! all the very best to you. i know it hurts like hell and even feels like you won't find anyone as beautiful as her, but when you are madly in love no one else on earth is quite so beautiful, trust me. good luck!
Ajax Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I am going on with my new life as a single male. My one man wolfpack has now grown by one. People who are not willing to put a great effort into making a relationship work. It is not easy and it will never be perfect. People dont seem to get this. They expect it to be perfect and they run when it isnt. So true. My ex bailed rather than tell me what was going on with her. I told her I wanted to stand by her and work things out but she just didn't want to put in the effort. Her loss I say. I'll find someone who is willing to work at a relationship.
WTRanger Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 The person in my life pulled the coma-patient method as well, where they just drop off the world. Not even an, "It's over." Nothing. It's absolute cowardice on their part. It's hard not to chase, because we at least deserve some sort of answer. But you'll never get one and if you do, it's a useless lie. Have people become so socially retarded that they can't deal with problems in a proper manner? The best way is to face them, deal with them, then move on. Running away from them is like running away from a tree. That tree will always be there and it will always keep growing bigger and bigger. You can take comfort that you are not the first and nor are you the last person she'll do this to. This is behavior she's been using her whole life.
Nkognito Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 My so-called ex did the same thing. She had a lot on her plate but eventually no where for me to fit, not even when I gave her space to deal with things. She stated she had many relationships and she had of course been divorced twice, so there was a reason she was still single when she got to me. Like I said before, people like this will continue to chase the idea of something better only to find out they are settling for a reflection of themselves. Sure you can spend your lifetime chasing the ideal relationship but its like throwing a strawberry threw a rose bush, eventually when it stops there won't be much of it left. Had it stopped long ago, it might have preserved itself long enough to become something it liked.
Gt.ooh Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Exactly...Every post is square on the money. I like all these new found people who are on the move on stage, as I am transitioning into now. "If you can't control it, don't worry about it." Worrying and trying to regain any of the control u once might have had, is as I'm finding out.. a big waste of time.. Once your dealt break or break up, my advice..grab the stuff u want to take with you and go. I made the mistake of leaving a brand new bike, couches and a "bed" yea a new bed she's prolly sleeping with someone on.... in TORONTO. Now I moved back to BC. I got 3 weeks out of a new condo I used my credit score for, and same for the furniture...and best of all my parents co-signed to get us the condo. ARggg...... hence why I pleaded so much and tried to contact so much. I had everything to lose. I'm on the hard right hand turn on the road to a new me. Cheers.
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