Thierro Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I still want to validate myself to her. A couple of days ago I subscribed to Facebook when my new “friends” told me it would be fun. First thing I thought was: I hope my ex will come across my profile and see that I am doing good, looking hot and that I have made new friends and experience new stuff. I don’t want her to remember me as a big mess that begged and cried. I just deleted Facebook because I know I should not care what she thinks. What about you guys? Do you still want to validate yourself at times? Lot’s of love. Hang in there! P.s You are cute
quankanne Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 20-something years after the fact, yes, I do. But I fight it because what's it going to accomplish? I'm very content with my choices in life, and just thinking about trying to validate my being with this particular ex would kind of make a mockery of everything I've happily accomplished. what's the saying? The best revenge is to live well? P.S. Thanks! I think it's the new hairstyle
hopesndreams Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I still want to validate myself to her. A couple of days ago I subscribed to Facebook when my new “friends” told me it would be fun. First thing I thought was: I hope my ex will come across my profile and see that I am doing good, looking hot and that I have made new friends and experience new stuff. I don’t want her to remember me as a big mess that begged and cried. I just deleted Facebook because I know I should not care what she thinks. What about you guys? Do you still want to validate yourself at times? Lot’s of love. Hang in there! P.s You are cute In the beginning, I did. When the pain was fresh. It ended up backfiring on me. The ex became insanely jealous instead. Thinking back, he always was.
thatsonlyme Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I guess all of us secretly want to validate themselves. There is nothing wrong with it. In my situation I have feeling that my ex though I was not capable of accomplishing anything on my own, but the fact is, she was slowing me down. Everything I do now I do it for myself, not her, but still It feels good knowing that she'll notice how much I've changed! I look and feel better and she'll notice it. She'll be envious about my new car. She'll get jealous when I get a girl hotter than her. And it feels good. But I look and feel better because of ME, I bought a new car because I wanted it and I will get a girlfriend I like! It's all about ME, ME and ME, but validation is a nice little bonus
Banker Chick Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 (edited) I'm the one that finally ended my relationship after much back and forth and limbo (it's a long complicated story) but the final straw was something idiotic he had done a couple weekends ago. I immediately went no contact. He sent me two texts apologizing but I've never responded. I think in his mind he thinks my silence is due to his mess up but it's really a culmination of things and so I almost want to break No Contact just to tell him he's an idiot and why I won't be talking to him anymore But ultimately I don't want to be back with him so it's best to just let sleeping dogs lie anyway. It'd still be a little validation for me though because I'm sure he just thinks I'm ignoring him because I'm a bitch... Edited October 19, 2010 by Banker Chick
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