Chance_taker Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Ok so I've been broken up with my ex gf now for close to 2 months. We were together a little over 3 years. We had our issues as does every LTR. Anyhow I realize she is a complete CP and I pretty much didn't stand a chance of being with her forever. So I've gone complete NC since the break up. She will occasionally reach out by text to me. But just about every text she says she "misses me and wishes things could be different" What does that mean? I never really acknowledge them but it seems to me she's trying to get me to say I wish that too or for me to try and persuade her back. I know from our relationship that she wanted space a while in and I gave it to her with complete NC and she became upset that I acted like she never existed. I really would love to reconcile with this girl but Im realizing whats the use if she can't commit to anything. But my question to you all is why does she keep telling me she"wishes things could be different and she misses me"?
2themoon&back Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Ok so I've been broken up with my ex gf now for close to 2 months. We were together a little over 3 years. We had our issues as does every LTR. Anyhow I realize she is a complete CP and I pretty much didn't stand a chance of being with her forever. So I've gone complete NC since the break up. She will occasionally reach out by text to me. But just about every text she says she "misses me and wishes things could be different" What does that mean? I never really acknowledge them but it seems to me she's trying to get me to say I wish that too or for me to try and persuade her back. I know from our relationship that she wanted space a while in and I gave it to her with complete NC and she became upset that I acted like she never existed. I really would love to reconcile with this girl but Im realizing whats the use if she can't commit to anything. But my question to you all is why does she keep telling me she"wishes things could be different and she misses me"? I may be only guessing here, but what I think it means is that she may not be happy with the outcome of your relationship, but at the same time she not willing to do anything to change it, except offer you these mixed messages. She is saying it in a way that sounds like she had no control over what happened in your R and/or breakup and I am sure she did. My best advice to you would be to send her a message back saying "you got your wish ... things are different and that’s why you will keep missing me"! That might stop her from playing with your feelings in this way. I say playing with your feelings because she is not saying “I miss you in my life and want to do whatever it takes to make things different….” I know how hard this is when you break up with someone you love, you do not need to be toyed with afterwards, good luck.
Jayerjay Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 I think she expected you to miss her and take the breakup hard, and by going NC and not giving in you showed her you're fine without her. She's trying to get you to admit that you miss her so that she can feel better about herself. Her texts are trying to get that out of you. I'm willing to bet if you gave in and told her that, either she would pull back right away or the reconciliation would be very short lived. You're doing the right thing. People can change, but she's going to need to show you more than those texts to prove it.
Don Ho Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 She "misses you"? That means she thinks about the past with you, she is reminiscing, not that she wants you back. She wishes things were different? I do too, I wish I were a famous, rich Hollywood Actor. That's not going to happen just like the situation between the two of you is never going to be different. She's not sending mixed signals or messages, you're just reading into them as such. What she is saying to you means nothing. She might as well tell you it's Fall and the leaves are falling off the trees. Move on.
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