Author aloneinhell Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 I am not moving and leaving the kids. I would never abandon my kids for any reason ever. The entire family is moving to Atlanta. When we get there she is going to have to either come clean with me or it's over. It is over anyways but I think sometimes we can do the roommate thing for the kids. I don't know. She is never going to come clean with me while we are here. That is for sure. It's weird too because in some ways she has told me why and that it's true but she will not just come out and say it plainly. Maybe she is just messing with me, I have a bad tendency to see the worst possible reasons for things. What do I make of her breaking down into tears when I ask how she could do that to her sister? To her own children? I don't know what to think about that. Is that guilt? Remorse? I just don't know. As for her sister. I am going to speak with her to let her know exactly what her husband is up to.
Bryanp Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 Are you saying you still have not told the sister? This is a huge mistake.
Author aloneinhell Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 (edited) I know. I realize that now but this is the first time I have ever been through something like this. I didn't know what to do. The sister is so co-dependent, and has her own set of problems that I figured she would just tell me to **** off. Their marriage has always been messed up because of his drug problems, and she would never listen to anyone that told her what was going on. People told her all the time he was a loser and she just kept the blinders on and said " I need proof." Then she would ignore it. Well she knows now about the drugs because they lost the house and all that. She still stayed with him too. If I did tell I figured she would leave and take the kids and I would lose them. I really am only thinking of how I keep my kids. I see the error in this. Anyways, I appreciate the responses. Edited October 22, 2010 by aloneinhell
In Like Flynn Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 Did the lawyer say for sure that after 6 months and you file that she will not be able to convince the judge to allow her to take the kids home to Cali? I mean that is where you spent 18 years of your marriage and where her family is etc!!
Author aloneinhell Posted October 23, 2010 Author Posted October 23, 2010 We have been married 7 years. Together for 18. I guess she can try that but there won't really be anywhere to come back to. Her sis and family are in the middle of filing bankruptcy. The rest of her fam, mom,dad,sis, live in Houston. I am allowed to file 6 months after getting residency. I suppose she could try that. If that happens then it happens. I am just trying to get my kids and myself to a better place.
Binster Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 While your doing all these things moving etc is there any chance that you can start filtering money of to somewhere safe as a secret stash to help after the split.
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