Something_Awesome Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Of course thats not to say I hated them. I just had ZERO interest in them as girlfriends (nothing against them as people). I don't keep a checklist on girls I'd date but I was always pretty "meh" over asian girls and never felt attracted towards them. ...Up until now. Oh, by the way, can you tell I am being candid here? So please don't go to town on me for it. Back on topic. I had an experience very recently that has sort of opened my eyes and am now VERY interested in dating Asians. So why am I here? I am absolutely clueless as to how to date an Asian as a white guy (I guess you can call me that). Hey, I've never broken my leg and I don't ever need to to know it hurts. Just the same, I don't ever need to have approaced an Asian girl to know that when I do approach one she is going to think I am some white guy with an Asian fetish. I don't have any fetishes (well I might, but if I do it is not something a girl might notice or object to). So any fundamental tips on fighting this uphill battle? P.S.: I've noticed that when going out recently I havn't even noticed other girls but have been checking out asians. All my friends have been busting my chops saying I have Yellow Fever, which I don't (hopefully). I am also not oblivious to Asian culture and have been around Asians for a lot of my life (specifically Thais, Koreans, and Mandarin speaking Chinese) so I know how to behave around them. I just need to be able to get 1 date with an Asian girl that won't presume I have an Asian fetish so she can see what I am all about. Also, I am loosely involved with this Brazilian girl, which I do like, but can't get over the fact that I know I am missing out. Like I said earlier, I noticed something in Asian girls recently that I never saw in other girls. And it is something that I since have noticed to repeatedly occur in Asians... I am not afraid to ask someone out, but the thought of me now approaching someone that thinks I am a lunatic sort of changes things. So help me out?
that girl Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 What is this experience that opened your eyes? I'm getting the feeling it is likely creepy and/or racist because there are hot girls from around the world and it doesn't take an experience to see that.
Author Something_Awesome Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 What is this experience that opened your eyes? I'm getting the feeling it is likely creepy and/or racist because there are hot girls from around the world and it doesn't take an experience to see that. proves the point i made in my post about me having some type of Asian Fever or being crazy or a maniac... second it has nothing to do with looks. As far as physical attraction goes, black girls were at the bottom of my list with asian girls just above that. So I assure you its not some horndog experience I had prior. For whatever reason, I got sprung on this Asian girl in another state I was visiting that I can never see again due to the fact that I am not willing to relocate to another state and neither is she. Our meeting was total accident; actually if anything, she initiated the communication. Otherwise I never would have noticed her...
tami-chan Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Of course thats not to say I hated them. I just had ZERO interest in them as girlfriends (nothing against them as people). I don't keep a checklist on girls I'd date but I was always pretty "meh" over asian girls and never felt attracted towards them. ...Up until now. You were in denial.! Back on topic. I had an experience very recently that has sort of opened my eyes and am now VERY interested in dating Asians. Oh, you had an "AHA!" moment? . What was that, pray tell? ...I don't ever need to have approaced an Asian girl to know that when I do approach one she is going to think I am some white guy with an Asian fetish. I am Asian and do not think that Caucasian men who like me have an Asian fetish. I think they like me because I am awesome . Seriously, not all Asian women think that way. So just go balls out and get a date with one. So any fundamental tips on fighting this uphill battle? 1) do not give up your Western religion and become a Buddhist. 2) Do not get a tattoo of Chinese characters ( or kanji). 3) Do not talk about your favorite "Asian" food---> chop suey 4) Do not ask if we know Martial Arts or can give "great" massages 5) Do not say you love our beautiful, long, black hair, especially if it is being held in a bun by chopsticks ( we use chopsticks for eating). 6) yes many of us have small feet, but not because our feet were bound since we were little. They are small because we are small! 7) If you are a medical doctor, half the battle is won 8) there are more, but you have to buy my book... P.S.: I've noticed that when going out recently I havn't even noticed other girls but have been checking out asians. All my friends have been busting my chops saying I have Yellow Fever, which I don't (hopefully). You do have "yellow fever"-accept it. Your friends will have it, too-if they have experienced what you have experienced. What was that experience again?
loverofloveandstuff Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Back on topic. I had an experience very recently that has sort of opened my eyes and am now VERY interested in dating Asians. What experience might that be? And do you think all Asians are the same and will give you the same sort of 'experiences.' This seems to be a purely physical thing imo. I am absolutely clueless as to how to date an Asian as a white guy (I guess you can call me that). Um... Why would it be different to dating someone of any other race? Hey, I've never broken my leg and I don't ever need to to know it hurts. Just the same, I don't ever need to have approaced an Asian girl to know that when I do approach one she is going to think I am some white guy with an Asian fetish. This is so ridiculous. If you don't have an Asian fetish, it will show that you don't have an Asian fetish. My mother is Asian and my father is white, and as far as I know, nobody thinks my father has an ASian fetish. There are PLENTY of mixed raced couples these days. If you haven't seen them, you're living under a rock. So any fundamental tips on fighting this uphill battle? It is not an uphill battle. Also, I am loosely involved with this Brazilian girl, which I do like, but can't get over the fact that I know I am missing out. Mate, this is such crap.
Star Gazer Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Um... Why would it be different to dating someone of any other race? That's what I'm wondering...
Author Something_Awesome Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 Oh, you had an "AHA!" moment? What was that, pray tell? Sorry rather not atm What experience might that be? And do you think all Asians are the same and will give you the same sort of 'experiences.' This seems to be a purely physical thing imo. No I don't think they'd all give me the same experience, otherwise I'd just order a Thai woman online for marriage if they ALL did. Um... Why would it be different to dating someone of any other race? It came out wrong. It wouldn' be different. I meant it'd be different to approach one, at least my mind says so. I have my tail tucked between my legs about asking an asian, though I never had this problem recently with other girls. And thats because I never thought they'd consider me creept (Oh no another white guy with an Asian fetish). Normally if I approach a random girl and get rejected I feel great about it and walk away with a smile I can' wipe off my face (yes weird I know but nobody has been able to explain it). This is so ridiculous. If you don't have an Asian fetish, it will show that you don't have an Asian fetish. My mother is Asian and my father is white, and as far as I know, nobody thinks my father has an ASian fetish. There are PLENTY of mixed raced couples these days. If you haven't seen them, you're living under a rock. Yea I am well aware of mixed couples and this topic is not about my lack of mixed couple awareness or my phobia of them. I myself am the product of a mix couple that calls himself white. Mate, this is such crap. Its not crap. What I am trying to say is that I am loosely involved with someone, which I bring up her ethnicity rather than say "she is not asian," and that I think I'd rather try dating Asians than continue dating this girl and getting serious with her. Just for the record. Many guys have Asian fetishes. I know A LOT of these guys, and they'd always look at me in disbelief when I said I am not interested in them... of course... till now
loverofloveandstuff Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Sorry rather not atm No I don't think they'd all give me the same experience, otherwise I'd just order a Thai woman online for marriage if they ALL did.Ohhh right. So all Thai women are the same. This may come as news to you, but despite background and race, even being a 'mail order bride', people actually have different characteristics that make them unique to the next person. It came out wrong. It wouldn' be different. I meant it'd be different to approach one, at least my mind says so. I have my tail tucked between my legs about asking an asian, though I never had this problem recently with other girls. And thats because I never thought they'd consider me creept (Oh no another white guy with an Asian fetish). Normally if I approach a random girl and get rejected I feel great about it and walk away with a smile I can' wipe off my face (yes weird I know but nobody has been able to explain it).Okay, dude. You seriously have a complex about seeming like a 'white guy with an Asian fetish.' (What exactly is the issue with people knowing the truth about you anyway? ) This is not an issue for any of my (Caucasian) guy friends who are in a relationship with an Asian woman; whom, by the way, do not have Asian fetishes. Also, as far as approaching/dating/whatever you want to call it Asian women... They are not a different species. Once again, how is it any different than approaching women of a different race? Yea I am well aware of mixed couples and this topic is not about my lack of mixed couple awareness or my phobia of them. I myself am the product of a mix couple that calls himself white. Well actually, it kind of is. By the amount of mixed race couples that exist, it would be fair to assume that the women in these relationships don't believe their partner has a fetish for their particular race. Also, why do you call yourself white if you have a mixed background? Why don't you call yourself mixed? Are you ashamed of your background? Its not crap. What I am trying to say is that I am loosely involved with someone, which I bring up her ethnicity rather than say "she is not asian," and that I think I'd rather try dating Asians than continue dating this girl and getting serious with her. I'd like to see how that conversation would go. 'Sorry babe, you're not Asian enough for me... and I feel like I'm missing out on all the Asianess... it just ain't gonna work!' Just for the record. Many guys have Asian fetishes. I know A LOT of these guys, and they'd always look at me in disbelief when I said I am not interested in them... of course... till nowYes, I'm aware. I lived in Asia for over a year and it wasn't hard to distinguish between the foreigners living their with Asian fetishes and those without. They stick out like a sore thumb.
loverofloveandstuff Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 By the way, anybody who posts a topic assuming that you can get a particular race of women by using some kind of forumla is alarming to me. If you come across this way in real life, all women (Asian and non Asian), would and should stay far away from you.
Author Something_Awesome Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 (edited) Ohhh right. So all Thai women are the same. This may come as news to you, but despite background and race, even being a 'mail order bride', people actually have different characteristics that make them unique to the next person. You asked me if I thought they were all the same. I said no. If I did I would have ordered one. It should be obvious that I hve not ordered one and therefore do not think that they can all provide me the same thing. I havnt bothered to read the rest of your post because it likely consists of more responses that were the product of selective reading. Edited October 19, 2010 by Something_Awesome
Feelin Frisky Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I'd kick Asians out of my bed (right after I cum). You go now, yes? :p
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Also, I am loosely involved with this Brazilian girl, which I do like, but can't get over the fact that I know I am missing out. That's a pretty superficial thing to say. It tells me that you see women more as objects than as individuals.
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Of course thats not to say I hated them. I just had ZERO interest in them as girlfriends (nothing against them as people). I don't keep a checklist on girls I'd date but I was always pretty "meh" over asian girls and never felt attracted towards them. ...Up until now. Let me guess... your not particularly blessed as a guy and your thinking that by going this direction will get a better fit... ? That's pretty much how I'm reading your statement and hesitation to explain. Having been in relationships with a good number of nationalities... I can't say I've noticed any kind of serious ethnic trend.
Awesome Username Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 It sounds to me like you're not really emotionally attached to anyone right now, and are looking to play the field and see what you're attracted to. Do what you want, but if you're decent then you'll tell the Brazillian girl that it's over instead of keeping her around for sex (unless I'm mistaken). If you don't then you're using her and it's wrong. Bad Karma. Asking out women is a numbers game. If you want someone based upon their ethnicity alone, then all you have to do is go up to a certain number of Asians each week and ask them out. If that doesn't work, do it the next week. Keep it up for a month; eventually you'll get a bite. Good luck man!
zerovandez Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I'm Asian and have dated all races and ethnicities. I'm dating a really gorgeous Latina right now. Here's my secret; treat them as women and humans. Simple. Asian girls are no different.
Author Something_Awesome Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 It sounds to me like you're not really emotionally attached to anyone right now, and are looking to play the field and see what you're attracted to. Do what you want, but if you're decent then you'll tell the Brazillian girl that it's over instead of keeping her around for sex (unless I'm mistaken). If you don't then you're using her and it's wrong. Bad Karma. Asking out women is a numbers game. If you want someone based upon their ethnicity alone, then all you have to do is go up to a certain number of Asians each week and ask them out. If that doesn't work, do it the next week. Keep it up for a month; eventually you'll get a bite. Good luck man! Word. No I wouldn't/won't take it to the level of having sex... Not in the business of screwing people over (literally and figuratively).
tami-chan Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I'd kick Asians out of my bed (right after I cum). You go now, yes? :p Why do you that? why only Asians? This is interesting, pet dogs are treated better than this. oh...is this supposed to be funny? where's the punchline?
souvlaki Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I can tell just by reading your posts that you have an Asian fetish. Why? Because you objectify them as a race. You think that they as a block of people have some 'quality' that sets them apart from others. If it were just "I like black shiny hair" that'd be less disturbing, because you would be acknowledging the superficiality of your attraction. You don't seem them as individuals.
Surrealist Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Some five weeks ago when I was at the outpatients fracture clinic at hospital for an appointment to have my tendon rupture injury repair assessed, there was an asian girl there with her mother - she appeared to be there supporting her mother. I noticed her and thought she had such a pretty face and I smiled at her and she smiled back - we held eye contact for more than several seconds. Her smile was so warm and very endearing all the same. I thought there and then I would certainly be open to dating asian women.
irc333 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I think, perhaps the attraction is the possiblity that you don't see many overweight Asian women. That's a culture where you see most women actually don't over eat. They're known for their petite figures.
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Why do you that? why only Asians? This is interesting, pet dogs are treated better than this. oh...is this supposed to be funny? where's the punchline? Frisky doesn't do well with women IRL, so he compensates online. I think, perhaps the attraction is the possiblity that you don't see many overweight Asian women. That's a culture where you see most women actually don't over eat. They're known for their petite figures. Fat Asian girls or Fasians are really popular too. Which also goes to show that if you feed anyone American food.. they are going to gain weight.
irc333 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Personally, I don't see too many fat Asians in comparison to other non-Asians. Frisky doesn't do well with women IRL, so he compensates online. Fat Asian girls or Fasians are really popular too. Which also goes to show that if you feed anyone American food.. they are going to gain weight.
aerogurl87 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 OMFG! Are you for real?!?!? You don't know how to approach an Asian girl? Ok, well if you know how to approach a woman of any race or ethnicity then you can approach an Asian girl. They're just human beings and women like the rest of us, sheesh!
Feelin Frisky Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Frisky doesn't do well with women IRL, so he compensates online. Fat Asian girls or Fasians are really popular too. Which also goes to show that if you feed anyone American food.. they are going to gain weight. So, you just like to make enemies for fun? That must help you a lot IRL. Curb your mouth. You don't know jack.
aerogurl87 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 I'm sick of these threads that act like we're all aliens from different galaxies who came together to colonize the world. Black, Caucasian, European, Asian, Hispanic, whatever... we all have the same freakin blood running through our veins. Yes we have some cultural differences most of the time, but people are people, respect is respect, and dignity is dignity. Respect all and treat all with dignity instead of using stereotypes on everyone you come into contact with.
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