lemonworld Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 After years of loneliness I finally met a woman I was compatible with. We dated for two weeks, we were intimate and everything was going perfectly until I got screwed up and kissed a mutual acquaintance. She called off the romance that night. For the next three weeks I didn't bathe and barely spoke to anyone. For a period after that I worked on improving myself hoping I could win her back after the summer (she's a student). I saw her socially twice but it soon became clear that there was no chance of us getting back together. The realization was devestating. All I can think about is the perfect life I stupidly tossed away with one bad choice. I'm sure I'll be remembering this for the rest of my lonely, miserable life, wondering what could have been...i try to change the record in my head but it's impossible. I just want to die. Thanks for reading, sorry to spill my guts like a mental patient but i gather that's what some people use this forum for.
Trovador Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Thanks for sharing, man... at least you show some responsibility for your acts and some regrets... while posters on this forum (me included) wish their exes would feel sorry for their mistakes, we tend to forget that we made a lot of mistakes too... Great lesson here...
EricaH329 Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 You made a mistake. Everyone does. You will get over this. I don't mean to sound harsh, and i'm not trying to dumb down your situation, but it was only 2 weeks. You will move on. I promise. Just make sure you learn from this mistake, and never repeat it again. That's what life is about after all, right? Learning from your mistakes.
cozenedindigo Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I think it would be really worthwhile for you to figure out why exactly you chose to kiss someone else. Is it because you were really scared of and thus not ready for a new relationship? This is a huge possibility and could be the key for you to understand your own self and figure out what actually went wrong, so that it never happens again. Also, with this lady -- maybe after you're done figuring yourself out you can apologize to her along with explanations backing up your apology, but right now you should move on, and fast. Maybe there will be a door open in the future, but before you fix your deeper problems any relationship will be in jeopardy. Good luck and hugs to you.
broken-and-lost Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I'm not an expert but you sound like there are other problems in your life that are effecting your self worth / confidence as two weeks is very quick to end up feeling so alone and in the state of mind your in. I've had some issues in the past myself and it's cost me so many relationships that it hurts to think about it now after my last one crashed it made me realise something else was wrong and i needed to get help. Maybe you should go see someone to talk about things and find out what the root problem is, you will never truly be happy with someone else unless you are happy with yourself, I learnt this the hard way Hope you find peace in your heart
Banega100 Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 nobody's perfect. If you found some one once, then you'll do it again. Just be sure to bathe man
Am4Real Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 After years of loneliness I finally met a woman I was compatible with. We dated for two weeks, we were intimate and everything was going perfectly until I got screwed up and kissed a mutual acquaintance. She called off the romance that night. I think it would be really worthwhile for you to figure out why exactly you chose to kiss someone else. . Just make sure you learn from this mistake, and never repeat it again. That's what life is about after all, right? Learning from your mistakes. Dear Lemon, Both cozenedindigo and EricaH329 has given you plenty to think about. Try to carefully understand their questions and when you do, you will be at peace with yourself. Peace usually brings about all sorts of new and wonderful opportunities. Believe me in that statement. Best wishes! Am4Real
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