ncrule Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Well here goes i have joined this forum so i feel like ive got people to go through this with. Me and my ex have been on and off for a year now. We get on fantastic wene were together we are both alike in so many gd ways and bad the bad part is were both as stuborn as each other this is y we have so many fall out just of late though we have been falling out alot and getting bk together and so on so on now im fed up i love this guy and i no deep down he loves me but sometimes hes not giving me the attention i need like one min hes all over me the next i dont get texts or even a phone call and everytime i break up with him hes comes bk but nothink ever changes. So today i sent him a text ending it like i normally do but i want to stick to the no contact rule for a while and maybe he will realise wene im not in his life no more n im not gonna jump straight bk together with him he might realise what he has lost. So this is day one sent him a text ending it this morning and i had no reply but i reackon this is becasue hes herd it all before. Im already struggling and really dont no how im gonna cope i really love this guy n love spending my time with im 24 n hes 29 we both should b settling but like i said its been a year now n were no were near settled. Do think my plan will work i will keep u updated x *Mobile number deleted *Deleted and blocked of facebook.
Trovador Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 i ddn't undrstnd most f ur post but u duing good Bstrong. but letm tell u sthing: NC not a plan nor game, it for u to move on... But i wsh u vry good lck!!! I rlly do, dspite all the mssplling! (not mking fun of u, jst gtting into the times)
Oscar Wilde Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 (edited) Do think my plan will work i will keep u updated x *Mobile number deleted *Deleted and blocked of facebook. Hi ncrule, for sure your plann is gonna work. Take it easy as NC is difficult to achieve, so be strong. First days are the worse, then it gets easier to handle. I'm saying so because i'm doing NC since last week. You're gonna feel better as time goes by. In my own situation I did this: *Mobile number deleted *Deleted and blocked of facebook *Pictures deleted *MSN deleted *e-mail accounts deleted *Contact info written in a paper and place in work office, out of reach. Remember this: NC is for you to heal, not for playing games! Keep posting, a lot of people are going to support you. We're all in the same boat!!! Bests regards, Oscar Edited October 19, 2010 by Oscar Wilde
Author ncrule Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 he text me saying i have been thinking about what you said i do love u loads but i think your right dont think i am ready to give u what you want i dont no y i think things have changed since we have been apart a lots gone on and your right you need sum 1 else to give you what you want xx wow thats cut me deep but i was gd i replied back with thanks for understanding and replying did i do right???? n he replyed you 2 x its really hurting cos i think that its finally it :( help!
Polar Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I wish you luck...it hurts a lot right? I'm going through NC too...
Don Ho Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 Well Ncrule, that's what happens when you play a game and continue to act like a kid. I think he's done too. Clearly that relationship wasn't really working for either of you. Time for you to grow up and find a man and be in a mature relationship. if u tink u cn do dat.
mridul_chajilee Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 well phone number can be deleted.But can't deleted from my brain.
Author ncrule Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 Thanks for all your feedback. Well im feeling much better today a few of my friends came round yesterday so that made me feel better plus i went out for a walk to a friends that took me mind of things hurt abit last night whilst i was in bed but today woke up still feeling strong plus got a busy day ahead so hopefully today is going to be a gd day x:rolleyes:x
Author ncrule Posted October 21, 2010 Author Posted October 21, 2010 Well hes been intouch again today asking me to send his cv its says in the text sorry to bother you but can u send me new cv please whitch i no he already has what should i do ????
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Am4Real Posted October 23, 2010 Posted October 23, 2010 i dont get texts or even a phone call and everytime i break up with him hes comes bk but nothink ever changes. So today i sent him a text ending it like i normally do but i want to stick to the no contact rule for a while and maybe he will realise wene im not in his life no more n im not gonna jump straight bk together with him he might realise what he has lost. So this is day one sent him a text ending it this morning and i had no reply but i reackon this is becasue hes herd it all before. No, your silly plan is not going to work! If he does contact you and you both eventually talk about reconciliation and do so, it’s bound to reoccur and repeat. Somehow you think taking CANDY away from the baby will help the baby manage their desires…is that what you’re trying to tell us. Come on, that’s ridiculous! Why would you not sit down and speak with this person in serious terms and get to the root of your issues? Why not hold such conversation in a sane, gentle and reasonable forum where you both are trying to understand each other, love each other, and most importantly find common ground for the long term of a continued stable relationship (key word is “stable”)? Why not make a list of his good and bad qualities and what makes you happy and what makes you sad. Ask him to do the same thing about you. Then meet up in a neutral setting like a park or a library where it’s quiet and there are few interruptions and go through your respective list(s) with each other. Be willing to give and be willing to take where appropriate. Even if you cannot find complete common ground you will be honest with yourself and with him. Honesty is one of life’s greatest achievements that so few ever accomplish! This silly game of yours is anything but honest! If he were a poster here I’d be advising him you are playing a game and to stay away from game players as they’re normally unstable and immature in their quest for solutions. Is that what you would want said about you? I doubt it. So get out there NCRULE and go about speaking with this guy about his issues, your issues, common ground, etc, before it’s too late and these silly games get you where all games go…no where. Good luck and best wishes, Am4Real
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