yoga18 Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Ok so I've been dating a really great guy for almost 10 months. I see a small issue coming our way with Thanksgiving or really any holiday for that matter. We live very close to his mothers house and to his fathers house (they are divorced). However my family lives about an hour and a half one way. For the holidays my family gets together at noon its always been that way. I would love for him to meet my family, he has met my mom and my step dad but the extended family has yet to meet him. Issue is that his mom eats around 2ish and his dad eats around 5 or 6. I really want to spend my holidays with my boyfriend and not go our own separate way. The past few that we have spent together, I went to my families he went to his moms, then we met up together for his dads. I don't want to ask him to not see or skip his moms. His sister lives far away and his mom deals with mental health issues so I don't think it would be fair to ask him even once to skip on her she has no one but him. His dad isn't the issue cause they always eat so late whereas mine eats so early. What do I do. I mean ok it might not be a huge issue right now but I would rather deal with it now it isn't like we can "go our separate ways forever" besides it isn't want I want. I've asked him and he agrees together is better but how do you do 3 houses every holiday? I would also like to enjoy the day off and not have to travel and run around the whole day any thoughts?
Untouchable_Fire Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 What do I do. I mean ok it might not be a huge issue right now but I would rather deal with it now it isn't like we can "go our separate ways forever" besides it isn't want I want. I've asked him and he agrees together is better but how do you do 3 houses every holiday? I would also like to enjoy the day off and not have to travel and run around the whole day any thoughts? You gave me some really solid advice.... so I'm going to do my best to return the favor. You can set up a rotation which often works best. One year you do thanksgiving with his family christmas with yours... the next switch up. I've done the staggered dates as well... since Thanksgiving has multiple free days. Maybe show up on Saturday for one of your families. Or you can do 3 in one day on really tight time tolerances... not my favorite option. I've found the rotation works best.
Author yoga18 Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 You gave me some really solid advice.... so I'm going to do my best to return the favor. You can set up a rotation which often works best. One year you do thanksgiving with his family christmas with yours... the next switch up. I've done the staggered dates as well... since Thanksgiving has multiple free days. Maybe show up on Saturday for one of your families. Or you can do 3 in one day on really tight time tolerances... not my favorite option. I've found the rotation works best. I actually thought of the rotation thing myself but its hard to know that his mom will be sitting by herself on a holiday....that thought alone really bothers me
confusedasever Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Take his Mom with you to your families holiday.
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