amoon1 Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Hi, I've been in a relationship with my current partner for over ten years, live with her and have children with her. We're not particularly well-suited and haven't been seeing eye to eye on many things for some considerable time now. Despite this, I care for her and love her for the fact that she's the mother of my children. However, I'm certain we're only together for the sake of the children. Now, to add to my predicament, there's a woman whom I work with who I've become close to over a period of time. She flirts with me, pays me compliments and makes me laugh, but despite all of this. I'm drawn to her for her childlike way and kindness (I'm 34, she's 43). She's recently broken up with her partner and whilst out together, this lady and I have kissed several times. I've developed strong feelings for her and have fallen in love with her. I told her how I felt and it's made her distance herself from me. She knows my situation and I've told her that in the ten years I've been with my partner I've never so much as looked at another woman. I'm not so shallow to fall for 'any' woman who's showed me any interest - as I say, I do nor look at or flirt with other women... but she's really got to me. I'm not sure if she's had her fun and got it out of her system. I feel terrible for cheating on my partner, feel confused and hurt. I want to tell my partner what's happened and also want to tell this other woman how much I feel for her. She's really messed with my head and heart... her continual flirting with me at work has materialised into genuine feelings. I can't stop thinking about her. Fortunately 'or' unfortunately she has recently (last week) left my place of work for a change in jobs, so I don't see her anymore. Should I confess what's happened to my current partner? Should I try and forget this other woman? Should I try and convince this other woman that I genuinely want to be with her? Your advice would be gratefully received as I cannot think logically on this. A. Moon. Link to post Share on other sites
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