greengoddess Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I was just thinking about how facebook has become a hotbed of affair making. Mostly stemming from lost loves reuniting. Or as I like to put it old middle age people recapturing their youth and the lost happiness and innocence of their high school and/or college glory years to work and responsibilities. I get the funniest sense of the two middle age people writing and chatting back and forth to their lost loves and in their minds eye as they are writing they see that fresh faced happy little teenage girl and boy about to conquer the world. I wonder if it is a let down to them when they actually meet for the first time. Do they still see that young fresh faced teen with fantasy eyes or do they see the true man or woman? Kind of like when you go to a high school reunion. You look around and think wow when did all these people get so old. Then you giggle because you know you look good and love your life and have no need to recapture your youth. Ok that's the set up to the question. Now that you are where you are in life. Married, responsibilities, been cheated on and hurt by someone you love, would you like to turn the clock back and go back to a more carefree time for a bit or are you happy with your choices in life and what became of them and where they would lead you? Me. I would never want to go back. I go on facebook and look at all my high school friends and chuckle at who looks great and who doesn't, look at their kids picturesand get updates on their lives and then that's it. I want to know about their lives now not reminise about then.
donnamaybe Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 If I changed anything, then I likely wouldn't have my three children NOR my sweet, loving, caring, capable, FUNNIER THAN HELL man! I love where I'm at in life. I'm very content and happy.
JustJoe Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I've always wanted to re-connect with my old college sweetheart. She was a really cute Blonde with pigtails and was the best "oral", I've ever known. Does anybody know where I can find her? Maybe she's going by the name of Donna.:D
jennie-jennie Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 With my MM's words: How could I know that the first wine I tasted was the best wine out there?
OWoman Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 :eek: I would never want to link up romantically with anyone from my past - there's a reason they're in my past and not in my present! That said, I've had a few former schoolmates and varsity buddies friend me on FB, and I have no problem with them lurking there, posting happy birthdays on my wall or approving comments on my photos. We all know that if we were to bump into each other unexpectedly in the supermarket we'd smile and greet and walk on, with nothing substantial to say to each other, and we're all cool with that the only "unfinished business" I have from that period of my life would involve hitmen, concrete shoes and buried bodies - my hormones definitely lurch in the other direction! But the notion of As triggered by a midlife crisis isn't necessarily about recapturing youth - or, specifically, about recapturing the youth one had. Sometimes a midlife crisis serves as a wake-up call simply to alert one of the danger of living out the rest of one's life in the same fashion as one's life to date - an alarm signalling the looming spectre of old age which will draw the line under any possibility of doing all those things one's youthful self had dreamt of doing - achievements one never attained, places one never went, experiences one never had... And, rather than returning to the naive days of one's youth, they can spur one to an alternative middle-life: a different, but age-appropriate option on the years one has left. Not all "midlife" As are with younger people, or with long-lost lovers from one's youth. Sometimes they are simply with people who offer access to a different kind of middle-life: one involving passion, energy, creativity, love, engagement and enjoyment in exchange for the dull, passionless tedium of low-level depression that so many unguarded lives can slip into.
PegNosePete Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Now that you are where you are in life. Married, responsibilities, been cheated on and hurt by someone you love, would you like to turn the clock back and go back to a more carefree time for a bit or are you happy with your choices in life and what became of them and where they would lead you? I am not happy with where my choices led me. But when I made the choices that led me here, I made them based on the information I had at the time. So I know that at the time I made the choices, I made the right ones. However if I had the gift of foreknowledge then I would probably not make those choices. Hindsight is 20-20.
Author greengoddess Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 :eek: I would never want to link up romantically with anyone from my past - there's a reason they're in my past and not in my present! I get the shivers when I think of who I was dating when I was 16. Eeeww if I had stayed with him. LOL but then what if I had met my husband at 16. But then he would not be a part of my past.
Author greengoddess Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 I am not happy with where my choices led me. But when I made the choices that led me here, I made them based on the information I had at the time. So I know that at the time I made the choices, I made the right ones. However if I had the gift of foreknowledge then I would probably not make those choices. Hindsight is 20-20. I agree if you only had full knowledge of your own life how different could it have been...
quankanne Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 I go on facebook and look at all my high school friends and chuckle at who looks great and who doesn't, look at their kids pictures and get updates on their lives and then that's it. I want to know about their lives now not reminisce about then. that's pretty much my thought, too – I know how much I've changed in the 25 years since I graduated high school, and I'm curious to see what life lessons my former classmates have to share. Yeah, there's a boy for whom I'd had an ongoing crush, and sometimes I still dream about that puppy love. I got to talk to him earlier this year for the first time since leaving school, and it was actually kind of sweet hearing him talk about his children and his marriage and his life. I guess it's along the lines of, "I'm happy with my life, and I want to hear that you're happy in yours, too," you know?
jennie-jennie Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Not all "midlife" As are with younger people, or with long-lost lovers from one's youth. Sometimes they are simply with people who offer access to a different kind of middle-life: one involving passion, energy, creativity, love, engagement and enjoyment in exchange for the dull, passionless tedium of low-level depression that so many unguarded lives can slip into. Aah, but when you combine the two! :love:
Crusoe Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 would you like to turn the clock back and go back to a more carefree time for a bit? Yup, were it possible I would do it in a heartbeat. Even if I could change nothing, to do it all again would be fantastic.
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