Dan200 Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I know theres a few similar subjects on this matter but I have yet to find one quite as bad... I'm really struggling do deal with my girlfriends past, I knew it was bad but I found out in detail just how bad the other day and I cant stop thinking about it now. She is 17 and i'm 20 however Im the youngest guy shes dated. So far she has confessed to having a 3 year relationship with a drug addict age 25 (so she would have been around 14), and it only gets worse... she has told me shes had sex with around 20 different people as well as threesomes and even group sex. Of course she also did drugs as well. Although she said she has changed and would NEVER cheat on me and loves me I cant put it out of my mind, the reason I found out was when she mentioned doing a threesome(I did bring it up but didn't expect what I would hear) and after pestering her she said she wanted the other guy to be her druggy ex! Stupidly I asked if he was bigger than me not sure why he is 5 years older thinking about it but she confirmed it...Im not making any of this up and cant see why she would either and don't get me wrong this kinda insecurity is very out of character for me but I've never had this before The worrying thing is we meet in a club and had sex the first night, we have been seeing each other 2 months now and she has admitted to kissing another guy in that time but she was very honest and at the time we had only just started dating so I didn't really care. I do get a sense that she does love me but I cant really match that now knowing this. WTF do i do? should I leave this in the past and trust she truly has changed, im usally pretty strong about this but this is destroying my mental side of the relationship
Username37 Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Have you heard of a movie called "Chasing Amy"? Give it a view sometime.
paleblue Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 dan.... do you really see yourself with this chick for the rest of your life? first off she doesnt even know what she is talking about when she uses the word love. she is too immature to know what the word means. and second, and even more alarming is she has already kissed another guy in only 2 months!!! come on!!!! do yourself the hugest favor..... and dont get emotionally attached to the girl. it wont be a year and she will be back out doing the same things she said she's not going to do anymore. i think you are feeling this way because you already know inside that she is going to do this. something tells me you know you want someone with a better background and morals. this chick is out of control. she has huge moral issues that you are not going to be able to change by being a good guy to her. im telling you.
Author Dan200 Posted October 22, 2010 Author Posted October 22, 2010 Emotional attachment is really something I wasn't going for at the start in fact I suggested an open relationship to begin with but she, a week or 2 later didn't want this and wanted to commit. As its been 2 months now its inevitable that Ive invested say, into are relationship so now feel more attached. I guess I should of changed this thread slightly as its not really her past that concerns me, I know this kind of stuff happens a lot (although perhaps not at her age Id hope even in this day and age) and I don't feel jealousy towards it anymore but its just how that past could effect her likelihood to cheat, I kinda feel a lack of trust when ever she goes out on a 'girls night out' considering thats how I meet her in the first place. The other issue is that I leave in 4 months for 11 weeks and I don't really plan to keep the relationship going but still cant decide if I keep it going till then, Christmas would be a nice time to have a girlfriend maybe I'm just being paranoid?
AndrewJDC Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 I have been in your position, it didn't work out. If it's bothering you now it will never go away By all means keep her around for sex but realise anything beyond will be impossible. Try to find someone less slaggish if you want a relationship, however, the slappers are generally more fun in bed! Brutal but honest I'm afraid.
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