shayan Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Yeah guys, those of you who are in the midst of a break up right now. 10 years from now you will forget most of what you were going through, other than how you generally felt. However, what you will remember is how you handled the situation. Remember the person you are breaking with is still a human being no matter how much of an ******* they can seem like at the time. So try to respect them and treat them as humanely as possible. However, more importantly retain your own self respect and dignity. Don't become a sad self destructive puppie chasing for scraps, when dinner has already been taken away indefinitly. Break away, and move on. If that means no contact then so be it, it is damn worth it. Don't give that person what they no longer deserve. I'm telling you you'll be so much more happy with yourself in the long run. I say this personally because I remember my first love and how I bargained and tryed so hard to get her back, and wasted so much time. For what? Someone who broke my heart, when I knew months before I should have left her ass. I'm telling you guys good luck, and I send you my love during this time.
Author shayan Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 and honestly don't beat yourself up if you do do some stupid things for love, forgive yourself we all do. But if you can take my advice and retain your dignity, peace
Oscar Wilde Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 (edited) Wise words. I Totally agree with you Shayan! Dignity is a scarce and valuable treasure. O.Wilde Edited October 18, 2010 by Oscar Wilde
Don Ho Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I have always said on these forums that when someone dumps you, ALL you have left is your dignity. Do not give that away to them also by chasing, groveling and begging.
Trovador Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 did you use 10 years for dramatic effect? somehow it looks to me like a very long time... I forgot on my last exes pretty fast... like months... But you are right, nothing like keeping the composure, even if you are dying inside...
Author shayan Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 oscar wilde you're alive again will you be writing any new stages plays, I'm tired of reading the old ones. Oh and Don Ho I think you give you really good advice in general I've read a lot of your posts.
Author shayan Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 yes ten years was used for dramatic effect. I guess you can use 2,3 or 5 depending on how things went. But ten is a really nice number.
Oscar Wilde Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 oscar wilde you're alive again will you be writing any new stages plays, I'm tired of reading the old ones. Oh and Don Ho I think you give you really good advice in general I've read a lot of your posts. Dear Shayan, Yes, I'm alive and kicking dear friend! I advice you to read my stages plays once again, little details are hidden in my words. Read and learn about life. Good comment on Don Ho posts, i read a lot of them, he is somme kinda mentor to us poor souls suffering the pain of a breakup. Bests regards! Oscar
cozenedindigo Posted October 19, 2010 Posted October 19, 2010 Yeah guys, those of you who are in the midst of a break up right now. 10 years from now you will forget most of what you were going through, other than how you generally felt. However, what you will remember is how you handled the situation. Remember the person you are breaking with is still a human being no matter how much of an ******* they can seem like at the time. So try to respect them and treat them as humanely as possible. However, more importantly retain your own self respect and dignity. Don't become a sad self destructive puppie chasing for scraps, when dinner has already been taken away indefinitly. Break away, and move on. If that means no contact then so be it, it is damn worth it. Don't give that person what they no longer deserve. I'm telling you you'll be so much more happy with yourself in the long run. I say this personally because I remember my first love and how I bargained and tryed so hard to get her back, and wasted so much time. For what? Someone who broke my heart, when I knew months before I should have left her ass. I'm telling you guys good luck, and I send you my love during this time. thanks a bunch for your wise words.
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