elaina Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 (edited) That's the thing... what separates me from all the other guys going after her? Nothing. I am just an average joe. Plus, I am not willing to keep others at bay through my status, or any other means. I think if there is a girl that you're interested in, you should ask her out. Hot girls are people too lol, and if you don't ask her out, you're not even giving her a chance, hmm? If she says no, no big deal, but it's an automatic no if you don't, right? I guess that is where the whole illusion ends. As much as she is attractive, it is just looks, which does nothing for my wellbeing. Physical attraction is but just one facet of the overall attraction.That's deep. Agreed Universally hot or not, as long as I am attracted to her that's all that matters.Yep Being at a function event, and seeing all these beautiful women, it was a lovely atmosphere. They seemed to be in a different class to everyone else. I did wonder what it would be like just to be with one of them.I'm not hot, but have always wondered what it'd be like to be naturally an eye magnet like some of my friends who are drop dead gorgeous hot. I've always been considered cute/pretty/beautiful but not supermodel gorgeous, but yeah I think many girls who do not belong to the natural supermodel club would love to spend even a day in the 5%?' shoes. The few hot girls I know are single. They have the most fun though.The hot girls I know are never single. (at least seems that way) One of my best friends is incredibly hot and we've had to work on me not being so self-conscious, because I would feel like a weed beside a rose until we talked about it. She is very sweet and kind and was shocked that I felt that way! (She doesn't realize how gorgeous she is sometimes it seems.) Now she helps me with fashion and things to help me feel more beautiful. One thing that is important to remember is that extremely beautiful/handsome people are people too, with feelings, and likes and dislikes, and many of them are very kind and down to earth, and are great friends! Edited January 21, 2011 by elaina
zengirl Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I wonder what "hot" even means. As a woman, I always think of "hot" as putting sex out there for everyone to see, something I personally take care not to do. The girls who want to can have that kind of attention. To me, "hot" and "beautiful" are very different things. I would say most of the women who dress like sex objects are going to react differently (maybe you can draw a pattern, since they're all making similar choices) from those who were just genetically blessed (this is going to be more scattershot).
Titania22 Posted January 21, 2011 Posted January 21, 2011 I wonder what "hot" even means. As a woman, I always think of "hot" as putting sex out there for everyone to see, something I personally take care not to do. The girls who want to can have that kind of attention. To me, "hot" and "beautiful" are very different things. I would say most of the women who dress like sex objects are going to react differently (maybe you can draw a pattern, since they're all making similar choices) from those who were just genetically blessed (this is going to be more scattershot). I think I agree with this, but I don't think it is just the clothes, it is what is being projected. (Happy, confident and sexy) I think sometimes I am 'Hot' and sometimes I am not. And I think the projected attitude is probably more of a contributor to the overall hotness than the clothes. For example when I am feeling it, I will bother to choose an outfit that I feel sexy in, and bother with makeup, but if I am not feeling it I don't bother. Of course a girl could wear the outfit and the makeup, but if she is projection an aire of embarrassment or low self esteem, it is most likely going to hinder her being described as hot that day. Someone who isn't aware of their own attractiveness level, could still be projecting happy, confident and sexy, without making the connection consciously. I find these hot girl type threads confounding, because I always wonder if I fall into the category of hot or not. I think this is because I am not a model type, and until this year I never even wore makeup. But what I have been doing even at my most naive, was project a sexiness. I am just more conscious of it now. Even at the age of 11, I once had an 8yr old boy all worked up and chasing me, wanting to grope me. It's actually a blessing getting older, because I am less hot, and have more control over it. But let me add that I don't think I am beautiful, if anything I am cute.
Author counterman Posted January 23, 2011 Author Posted January 23, 2011 Thanks for your reply, Elaina. You are right. I think I get so caught up with the exterior that I forget there's a personality behind it, that may be what I like or what I don't. If I don't even try, how will I ever know what her personality is like? If it's a no, it's no problems. I don't take it personally, since some may be interested and some may not. Though, lately, I have been finding it hard to approach girls... especially if they have earphones on! I guess most of the hot girl friends I have, they are single because they kept meeting the wrong guys. I think your friend is wonderful and I wish I had a friend who could help me with things like fashion and whatnot. Zengirl, I think hot is sex appeal, and what Titania said in regards to projection. Though, in saying that, it's subjective. My friends and I don't always agree on who we think are hot or not. I think girls don't have to dress like sex objects to be hot. If they're really comfortable in their own skin, it really shows. Titania, what you said rings a bell to me. I think when you're feeling it, it really shows. My teacher back a few years ago had several older students, who loved to dress up. When they went on a field trip, they had random guys hitting on them, but it made them uncomfortable. They didn't dress like that to be hit on guys, they just love to dress up. As they put it, if you feel you look good, you feel good and it really projects. Some don't even know they are "hot" to others. As an example, my ex-girlfriend didn't think she was all that but she really got me going. Others judge their attractiveness-level based on how many guys ask them out, etc. With the girls I am talking about, it's not always the pure physical. Sometimes their fun-side can be observed and gets that thought going through my head "damn, I would like to see what she's all about".
zengirl Posted January 23, 2011 Posted January 23, 2011 (edited) I think I agree with this, but I don't think it is just the clothes, it is what is being projected. (Happy, confident and sexy) I think I'm comfortable in my own skin and confident, but to me that doesn't translate to "sexy" which is something I've no desire to be, except to my own BF. So, this is still confusing to me. Can you be hot without putting out a 'sexy' vibe? I'm still confused. I think being beautiful, confident, and happy does not translate to "hot" as I've thought it to be (like sexy). It translates to gorgeous, beautiful, etc, but it's not like a Maxim girl type thing. Edited January 23, 2011 by zengirl
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