souvlaki Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Reading somebody else's thread, where they are unsure of a friend's/lover's/significant other's intentions, it is often very clear that the person isn't interested and there is no future. Yet the poster seems in the dark. The same can be said for hearing friends complain about their romantic problems. Yet reflecting on our own problems and lives, we make more amends for other people and the details of our relationships. We believe that this person is different or this situation is different. We can't possibly imagine all the nuances of an individual and relationship could boil down to a few hard, cold facts. Yet...they usually do. Isn't that funny? Actually I can't remember a friend ever coming to me for advice about a relationship that seemed troubled, where things turned out ok or against my expectations.
brainygirl Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I think humans are great at not seeing things we aren't comfortable with. If I am seeing someone I really like, I do't want to see the fact that he isn't as into me as I am into him.
Insanitylater Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I think humans are great at not seeing things we aren't comfortable with. If I am seeing someone I really like, I do't want to see the fact that he isn't as into me as I am into him. I agree, but a few are like me, and able to read people very good. Thats why I never have the totally crazy situations that I read here on a daily basis. As I said before, people get with each other because they want sex or are lonely. They disregard any red flags they see and then blame the person for turning out exactly as they knew they would. People see it, they just choose not to pay attention Especially women, they are addicted to fixing or changing the problems with the guy they meet.
Author souvlaki Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 I think humans are great at not seeing things we aren't comfortable with. If I am seeing someone I really like, I do't want to see the fact that he isn't as into me as I am into him. I think it goes deeper than that. Sometimes the more you know about a situation, the less you know. I find it's hard to be objective about relationships or people even when I know them well but have no emotional investment -- say the relationship of two friends who I am close to.
Author souvlaki Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 There are good and bad things about this reality. On the good end, it means that people are fairly predictable, so you can make wise choices about your own life by observing the facts. On the bad end, there's something depressing to me at least that we can all almost be reduced to statistics. It's like we lack free will.
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