BrokenBrooklynMan43 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 She left a week ago - we had been together for 7 years - and the pain is blinding. I do not know what to do.
Emptiness Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Concentrate on survining and getting through today, then tommorrow, and the next... Pretty soon you won't have to think about getting through the days and you will start to heal
LoveTNT Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I'm sorry that you are feeling this intense pain. It's all about healing and loving yourself first in every little thing you do, especially even more so now. I know it's easier said than done, I'm going through the healing process as well. Ask for strength, understanding and peace for your heart/soul. You will survive through it. Yes you will have to force yourself to do a lot during this time, have the courage.
Author BrokenBrooklynMan43 Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 Thank you for the replies. I am numb right now - like it is taking a break from beating on me. I wish I could be numb all the time. I don't think she handled this right, but I know there are some things I need to change. I guess it is all about courage. Not knowing what tomorrow will bring but moving forward anyway.
overcome Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Broken Sorry for your loss man. There's not much you can do to relieve the pain except to let time pass. But while you're healing, do things to make yourself a better person. The more involved you are with staying busy, the less time you will be thinking about your situation. Do you know why she left? People often blame themselves for a failed relationship but more often than not, the dumper has issues that influenced their decision.
Author BrokenBrooklynMan43 Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 Thanks folks. I know that time will heal - and only time, really - but I hate the idea of a future without her. The end seemed forced. It feels so abrupt, unfinished. I am fighting not to contact her. I am trying to find the motivation to do the things I need to better myself - she had some valid points. And these are things I need to do for me, regardless of where she is. I had fallen into a rut. But I am so empty inside, so sad, and in so much pain. Sometimes I am just numb and that is not as bad. Every once in a while, and not for long, I feel motivated - for her, for another chance, for me, or just by the idea of becoming the man I was/should be and being brave and fighting. But the idea of never being with her again really takes me to the floor. It makes it all seem a waste of time. I know it shouldn't, but it does.
Oscar Wilde Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 (edited) Hi Folk! Sad to hear your story, but for now try no to contact her, focus on your survival and keep calm and cool. Don't let your feelings drive you crazy! Bests regards and keep posting! Oscar Edited October 18, 2010 by Oscar Wilde
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