Polar Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Ok...so me and my girlfriend are currently in no contact which was initiated by her; she deleted me from facebook and msn. Recently i've had lots of weird adds on facebook which i've declined...and now her sister has "randomly" added me...I have accepted however should I delete her? I think this may be a ploy to get information about me...I miss my ex girlfriend and still love her so i'd like to get her back...infact she invited me to her birthday party the other day and I just said i'd let her know... What should I do? Delete or allow? EDIT: She tells me she has a new boyfriend also, so why would she invite me to her party? Is she simply playing games?
ShannonMI Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Ok...so me and my girlfriend are currently in no contact which was initiated by her; she deleted me from facebook and msn. Recently i've had lots of weird adds on facebook which i've declined...and now her sister has "randomly" added me...I have accepted however should I delete her? I think this may be a ploy to get information about me...I miss my ex girlfriend and still love her so i'd like to get her back...infact she invited me to her birthday party the other day and I just said i'd let her know... What should I do? Delete or allow? EDIT: She tells me she has a new boyfriend also, so why would she invite me to her party? Is she simply playing games? Yes, delete the sister. If you add her then you will be tempted to look on your ex's fb page. That will most likely lead to seeing things that you don't want to see. I hate fb so much. I don't have an account and I'm glad I don't. It's nothing but trouble. Also, don't you dare go to her birthday party. I don't know how far along you are in your healing process, but seeing her and her new boyfriend is only going to hurt you. Unless of course you are completely over her.
Author Polar Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 I have these crazy ideas that I could go and win her back...
ShannonMI Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I have these crazy ideas that I could go and win her back... 'Crazy' is right. I don't think it's a good idea. Do you want to see her with her new man? I think not. And going there to win her back is going to make you look pathetic. Don't do it!
Ajax Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 It's a trap! She might be trying to get info about you through her sister. As for the B-day party, I think she's baiting you to try to get a rise out of you and see if she still has you on her rope. There's no reason for you to go, especially if her new BF will be there. You know she won't pay any attention to you and she may use it as an excuse to bash you to her friends. "Can you believe how pathetic he is? He actually showed up!" It'll be forced and awkward and you'll be sorry you went.
Author Polar Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 Hmm the thing is she told me on the phone a while ago that she doesn't feel right with him and that he simply isn't me... She's giving me really mixed signals.
ShannonMI Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 It's a trap! She might be trying to get info about you through her sister. As for the B-day party, I think she's baiting you to try to get a rise out of you and see if she still has you on her rope. There's no reason for you to go, especially if her new BF will be there. You know she won't pay any attention to you and she may use it as an excuse to bash you to her friends. "Can you believe how pathetic he is? He actually showed up!" It'll be forced and awkward and you'll be sorry you went. Yes, this is so true. I can't believe some exes are so evil. Haven't they caused enough pain? Why do they need to play these stupid games?
ShannonMI Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Hmm the thing is she told me on the phone a while ago that she doesn't feel right with him and that he simply isn't me... She's giving me really mixed signals. Yep, she's giving you mixed signals. Did she dump you or did you dump her? If she doesn't feel right with him then why is she with him? Is he a rebound?
Author Polar Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 Yep, she's giving you mixed signals. Did she dump you or did you dump her? If she doesn't feel right with him then why is she with him? Is he a rebound? I think he is a rebound...she hasn't even met him in real life, she plays xbox live with him. I cheated on her so she dumped me! I know it was a HUGE mistake and I would never ever ever do it again...it was just a kiss however I know it's not ok...I apologised reletnlessly...sent her roses...walked 40 miles to find her lost bracelet...begged, pleaded... You know the normal stuff which pisses girls off :/... Recently I sent her a letter telling her I wish her luck and she didn't respond...she just sent me a message saying "I had to send this. But apart from this please stop trying to contact me, it just wouldn't feel right not inviting you"...attached to an invitation.
ShannonMI Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I think he is a rebound...she hasn't even met him in real life, she plays xbox live with him. I cheated on her so she dumped me! I know it was a HUGE mistake and I would never ever ever do it again...it was just a kiss however I know it's not ok...I apologised reletnlessly...sent her roses...walked 40 miles to find her lost bracelet...begged, pleaded... You know the normal stuff which pisses girls off :/... Recently I sent her a letter telling her I wish her luck and she didn't respond...she just sent me a message saying "I had to send this. But apart from this please stop trying to contact me, it just wouldn't feel right not inviting you"...attached to an invitation. Yea, the cheating was bad. I guess I can't blame her for not wanting anymore contact with you. She makes no sense though. "Please don't contact me, but you can come to my birthday party." Say what?? Is the new boyfriend going to be at the party or is he just an internet thing?
Ajax Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I think he is a rebound...she hasn't even met him in real life, she plays xbox live with him. ???????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? Do you know this is true? In what way does that make him her BF then? Hmm the thing is she told me on the phone a while ago that she doesn't feel right with him and that he simply isn't me... Of course she doesn't feel right with him, she's never been with him. At the end of the day she can tell you whatever she wants, it doesn't mean it's true. Yeah it was wrong cheating on her, and you can't expect her to ever take you back after than no matter how much you try to make up for it. But I stand by my belief that she's baiting you.
Author Polar Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) The reason I cheated was because she was refusing to spend time with me towards the end of our relationship...so I don't know if it's the underlying reason. I doubt he will be there, some people have told me that they aren't even dating...for example: Relationship Status:In a relationship with Gavin Whitehall Interested in:Men Looking for: Friendship Dating A relationship Why is she looking for a relationship if she is going out with him? I feel like she is testing me... Edited October 17, 2010 by Polar
Ajax Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I doubt he will be there, some people have told me that they aren't even dating...for example: Relationship Status:In a relationship with Gavin Whitehall Interested in:Men Looking for: Friendship Dating A relationship Why is she looking for a relationship if she is going out with him? She's baiting you.
Author Polar Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) She's baiting you. What do you mean? Also her sister is 12...so I don't feel like I can delete her without looking very mean as her sister has attachments to me...she calls me her big brother. Edited October 17, 2010 by Polar
ShannonMI Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 The reason I cheated was because she was refusing to spend time with me towards the end of our relationship...so I don't know if it's the underlying reason. I doubt he will be there, some people have told me that they aren't even dating...for example: Relationship Status:In a relationship with Gavin Whitehall Interested in:Men Looking for: Friendship Dating A relationship Why is she looking for a relationship if she is going out with him? I feel like she is testing me... Is Gavin the xbox kid? She's in a relationship then if that's his name. How old are you guys? Why are you looking at her damn fb page? Stop doing that. You are torturing yourself.
Ajax Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 What do you mean? It souds to me as if she wants to know that you're still on her hook. But the "relationship status" is probably to try to get you jealous. So between that and the birthday invite, it sounds like she's trying to get you to react to it. I wish it sounded like she wanted another chance with you, but I get the impression that it's more of a control/revenge thing. I never condone cheating, but if she was getting distant before you kissed the other girl then things were already going wrong. She seems immature to me, or really really vindictive. I think you should find a way to break free of her.
Author Polar Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) Gavin is the xbox live kid. I'm 19 and she is 17...it's her 18th birthday coming up. Something that is playing on my mind is that two weeks ago, our last phonecall when she told me she missed me she also said..."Please just because i'm in a relationship don't go out and do the same"...I told her that there is nobody special right now but there might be in the future. EDIT: During our relationship...she always had loving quotes about me on her facebook and msn...now she has none for this new guy? She also kept asking if I kissed anyone on msn a few weeks ago...I told her I haven't, which is true. Edited October 17, 2010 by Polar
ShannonMI Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Gavin is the xbox live kid. I'm 19 and she is 17...it's her 18th birthday coming up. Something that is playing on my mind is that two weeks ago, our last phonecall when she told me she missed me she also said..."Please just because i'm in a relationship don't go out and do the same"...I told her that there is nobody special right now but there might be in the future. EDIT: During our relationship...she always had loving quotes about me on her facebook and msn...now she has none for this new guy? She also kept asking if I kissed anyone on msn a few weeks ago...I told her I haven't, which is true. Sounds to me like she has an imaginary boyfriend. She's trying to make you jealous. I doubt this kid even exists. She sounds very immature.
Author Polar Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) I know he's a real person but maybe she isn't really dating him? I love her so so so so much...with my entire heart; i'd never ever make the same mistake again, I want to fix things and move forward with her as a part of my life and I have made this clear to her. Shannon, if I turned up to her 18th with a card and just said something like "Sorry I can't stick around but I really wanted to say Happy Birthday" looking nice and stuff...would that help? Edited October 17, 2010 by Polar
ShannonMI Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I know he's a real person but maybe she isn't really dating him? I love her so so so so much...with my entire heart; i'd never ever make the same mistake again, I want to fix things and move forward with her as a part of my life and I have made this clear to her. Shannon, if I turned up to her 18th with a card and just said something like "Sorry I can't stick around but I really wanted to say Happy Birthday" looking nice and stuff...would that help? Don't show up. Mail it to her. I just don't think it's a good idea to go there.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I have my ex's sister on mine, I blocked the ex so I can't see her as a mutual friend or anything. Do the same that way you can keep her without the ex effecting anything. However I am really friends with the ex's sister. Also FB has privacy settings etc your ex may be using her sisters profile to peer into your online life etc. So use FB privacy settings to hide everything but say basic info that way it teases her. I know unconventional suggestion but it's just a different one. However if it really effects you unfriend.
Author Polar Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 I removed the sister... My female friend has also randomly had two adds...I think she's trying to find out things about me.
Sambo Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Ok...so me and my girlfriend are currently in no contact which was initiated by her; she deleted me from facebook and msn. Recently i've had lots of weird adds on facebook which i've declined...and now her sister has "randomly" added me...I have accepted however should I delete her? I think this may be a ploy to get information about me...I miss my ex girlfriend and still love her so i'd like to get her back...infact she invited me to her birthday party the other day and I just said i'd let her know... What should I do? Delete or allow? EDIT: She tells me she has a new boyfriend also, so why would she invite me to her party? Is she simply playing games? If you want her back date her Sister, trust me on this its fool proof
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