hawks0523 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 My exgirlfriend and I broke up nearly 5 months ago because she needed to find herself. She recently moved back from another town and asked to hang out. We did dinner and a movie. Things started well but after the movie she became cold and closed off. However, we ended the date on a good moment (she even looked like she wanted to be kissed). I asked what was wrong and she said she it wasnt a big deal.....and we went our seperate ways. When I got home i text her curious if she could tell me easier through text. She replied with "Please dont worry about it! I promise I will tell you later. We should hang this weekend." I didnt reply and she followed up with another text saying "Pleeease dont think about it! ". I replied jokingly saying "Just a hint " She didnt respond and we didnt talk for the rest of the week. Friday rolled around and I asked if she wanted to get dinner. She said she was going to a musical with her mother but she was free tomorrow. I said lets plan on dinner tomorrow and she replied...sounds good. The next day rolls around and she text me saying "Totes forgot I told another guy that I'd grab a few drinks with him tonight....eff! What are doing for the football game?" I didnt respond and preceeded to go to the bar for the football game. She shows up with her brother (a friend of mine) to the bar and neither of us acknowledge each other. You could cut the tension with a knife. She doesnt want to sit anywhere near me which was evident because she was offered several seats. Then....she started flirting with all of my friends (I think she was trying to make me jealous). I was very cold towards her and every comment she made regarding me. A little time later she asked me if I had gotten her text message. I said yes. She said I know you dont believe me. Then asked if I wanted to do dinner tomorrow or sometime this week. I replied I dont know. Ill let you know.... She becomes quite and closed off after having a great time with everyone else. A few times she came over and talked to me and touched me. I was very cold in my responses. We were going to leave the bar and she asked what my plans were for the night once again touching my back. I responded I dont know...and this is where we stand. What do you think I should do? Is there still hope with her? Should I let her come to me? How should I proceed? Thanks!
atlnay Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 What do you think I should do? Is there still hope with her? Should I let her come to me? How should I proceed? Thanks! That was a TON of misread signs and shutting down to shift thru OP, I can't tell you if there is still hope with her. What I will suggest is that you stop "being cold" to her when she does something that upsets you. Express what your issues is, calmly of course, and give her an opportunity to explain or improve.
saiveca Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Being cold and not responding to her texts is totally childish. If she doesn't think you're immature yet, it's because she must really like you. Whether you want to pursue her or not, be nice and understanding.
Mad Max Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Being cold and not responding to her texts is totally childish. If she doesn't think you're immature yet, it's because she must really like you. Whether you want to pursue her or not, be nice and understanding. But her flirting with his friends isn't?
saiveca Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 But her flirting with his friends isn't? OP got upset because she was having drinks with another guy. Then he ignored her. What's flirting? Does the OP mean just talking to them? OP was ignoring her, what else was she supposed to do? I think clearly there's some jealousy issues here and the two of them aren't even an item.
Mad Max Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 OP got upset because she was having drinks with another guy. Then he ignored her. What's flirting? Does the OP mean just talking to them? OP was ignoring her, what else was she supposed to do? I think clearly there's some jealousy issues here and the two of them aren't even an item. No, OP got upset because he suggested dinner, she agreed, then all of a sudden "forgot" she promised another guy they'd go for drinks. OP's ex lost any credibility when she decided to flirt with his friends to make him jealous.
Author hawks0523 Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 I called her last night (which I'm regretting) and we agreed to meet tonight to discuss everything that happened saturday. Do you think this is a good idea or should i cancel?
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