How to stop the flirtatiion with my Human Resources Manager who is also married ?

[blueprint123]

I've read alot of sharing about flirtation and have learn some from those advice. but would appreciate if I can get more direct advice from my own problem. I worked in the a certain co. for almost 4 year. Job is good so far . but then 2 years after i worked in the co. we got a new Male HR and at first nothing unusually going with him and me other than flat professional activities. but just recently just before he moved to a different site due to some temporary renovation of our building, we tend to jokes more with each other, communicate more because our job is very connected as i handle the accounting part. But then I noticed that the more tease and jokes we have at work the more we tend to get more closer and seems like he start flirting with me by telling me how he missed my company all the time just me having around. then he try to always stop by in my office even for no reason at all just to say hi /hello which he never did before. and then one day he asked me how long i've been married and start telling me that he's been married for almost 25 yrs and have great relationship with his children but not with his wife. which is wierd because I can't even think he stayed that long being married if he's not happy but i have a pretty good idea that he does not leave his wife because of his kids. i even told him that he and his wife should go to couselling and he said he don't think it will work. then just for the past few weeks, he keeps saying how smart i am, and how wonderful i am. you named it which made me flattered of course because it makes me feel good. but then I never realized that the more he does those flirtation with me, I tend to start liking him which I know very wrong for me but why I can't stop thinking about him anymore. It's just the more I tried to avoid him the more I tend to want him in my mind and my HR thought we have a mutual feeling. so far we never go to the point where we dated nor have any intimate time together because I tried not to mind his flirtations although deep inside it's killing me because I've been feeling confused and i starting missing him when he is not around. Please help me how to stop this flirtation in a nice way without being rude. I really want to stay friends with him but deep inside i should not.

[BettyBoop]

If you have a SO, steer the conversations into him/her saying "Oh, my b/f or g/f likes the same things" etc

 

if you're single, try a conversation where you say something along the lines of how you'd never get involved with a married man because cheating is wrong and you could never respect a man who cheated and broke his vows? That'd get him to take the hint...