machiavellian Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 If you and your SO were hanging out watching tv late-ish at night, and you fell asleep on a short couch, would your SO: A) Wake you up to say goodnight and let you sleep there. B) Wake you up to go up to bed. C) Leave you there without waking you up, but covering you with a blanket and/or moving you over to a longer, more comfortable couch. D) Leave without saying a word and doing nothing except turning off all the lights. E) Other. Would any of these options making you angry or ?
Pfiend101 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I would say C is a good one. Physically moving them might wake them up and they will get pissed. lol
Cee Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) Really depends. Usually, I'd encourage him to come to bed, but if he zonked out b/c he was drinking or smoking, I'd leave him there. Edited October 17, 2010 by Cee
Sabali Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I would say wake me up to go to bed and I would wake her up to have sex before we go to bed.
that girl Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 A) is rude and selfish. The other three depend. Some couches are comfortable to sleep on, some are guaranteed to give you a crick in your neck. Some rooms are so warm that a blanket is unnecessary.
ComeUndone Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 B. He would wake me up to go up to bed, which is what I would want him to do. Would any of these options making you angry? (A) would be weird, © would be considerate I suppose, but we both prefer to sleep in bed together so it would be a little odd, and (D) would piss me off. The other thing he might do is lay down next to me if there was room. Your SO left you out there?
phineas Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 DON'T fricken wake me up & tell me to go to bed. I HATE that crap. Let me sleep damnit.!
brainygirl Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I honestly think it depends on the dynamic of the couple. When I visit my guy we often start out on the couch and more into the bedroom, his couch is very comfortable, but it gets crowded. This past weekend we were asleep together on it after having been to a bar/concert and both being quite drunk. I remember him waking me up to tell me it was crowded, lets go to bed, but me in my drunk/asleep state, didn't register that until a couple of hours later, when I got up and got myself to the bed. Was I irritated to be left on the couch? No, not really. Do I sometimes wake up from a deep sleep stupid and cranky -oh yeah. So, if it was me, I'd say leave me there, if I wake up and move, I wake up and move, if I don't, I don't.
Star Gazer Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 If you and your SO were hanging out watching tv late-ish at night, and you fell asleep on a short couch, would your SO: A) Wake you up to say goodnight and let you sleep there. B) Wake you up to go up to bed. C) Leave you there without waking you up, but covering you with a blanket and/or moving you over to a longer, more comfortable couch. D) Leave without saying a word and doing nothing except turning off all the lights. E) Other. Would any of these options making you angry or ? This happened 50% of the time with my ex. He always did (B). (D) would have pissed me off.
sanskrit Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I would do "D" as putting a blanket on sleeping women often makes them too hot. Hate waking up sweaty from covers I don't want and women I am with tend to be similar. Definitely wouldn't try to move her unless she was sleeping in such a way as to get a neck crick.
Stung Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Our couch is comfortable enough to sleep on, but I always (B.) wake my husband up to move to the bedroom. He prefers it that I do, he doesn't like waking up by himself in the living room and would rather have a few moments in bed with me in the morning. I have a hard enough time managing to sleep in my own bed so it's never really an issue for me--(D.) would be a little off-putting, but while it would be worth mentioning, it wouldn't make me gnash my teeth and rend my hair, or anything. What would (E.) be, I wonder?
Author machiavellian Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 Yes, he left me on the tiny couch, which is not the norm. Any time I've fallen asleep in the past he's woken me up to go up to bed. I woke up as he was going up to bed, after he had turned out all the lights. I was very disconcerted and disoriented by that, not to mention irritated and what the hell ?! Went upstairs, caught up to him in the bathroom, asked what that was all about. He laughed and didn't answer, which made me even angrier, and it turned into a huge fight because he just kept laughing like a weirdo and wouldn't talk to me, except to finally say what was the big deal, so I went from irritated to furious. I think what he did is frikkin weird, and I think when I express annoyance over something that is completely out of the ordinary for us, I deserve an apology or some sort of acknowledgement, if not an explanation, because now I feel like he was doing it to be a douche. If he had woken me up to say goodnight, giving me the opportunity to wake up and realize I didn't want to sleep on a tiny couch and that he was leaving, or covering me up with a blanket would have been acceptable, short of actually waking me with the intention of getting me up to bed. He still won't acknowledge that there is anything weird about what he did or that me being annoyed might be legitimate, so I was curious what other people thought about it.
tinktronik Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 If you and your SO were hanging out watching tv late-ish at night, and you fell asleep on a short couch, would your SO: A) Wake you up to say goodnight and let you sleep there. B) Wake you up to go up to bed. C) Leave you there without waking you up, but covering you with a blanket and/or moving you over to a longer, more comfortable couch. D) Leave without saying a word and doing nothing except turning off all the lights. E) Other. Would any of these options making you angry or ? My SO does any of these things depending on how tired he thinks I am, how comfortable I look or how restless I have been lately. I don't think any of them are rude.
sanskrit Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 He still won't acknowledge that there is anything weird about what he did or that me being annoyed might be legitimate, so I was curious what other people thought about it. No idea what was going through his head without more information. Personally, I hate sitting and watching TV unless we are sharing a movie we both want to see. An Ex used to make me watch American Idol with her, knowing that I don't enjoy the show, and then fall asleep ten minutes into the show. I would just head to bed to read assuming that she would wake up and want to watch the rest of the show rather than being dragged off to bed as it was very early. So many possible variables.
Author machiavellian Posted October 19, 2010 Author Posted October 19, 2010 No idea what was going through his head without more information. This is exactly why I found this frustrating. In the scenario you gave, I could understand why he might not have woken me up. However, it was almost 2am when he shut off the lights and went to bed, after watching a show HE wanted to watch.
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