Lovelydawn Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 even though my ex-bf dumped me 2 weeks ago i have no doubt in my mind that i once mean the world to him and this is why i just cant understand how can he act like i dont mean anything to him. he is cold and heartless and acts like im nothing. i cant understand as to why someone would act like that towards the person they shared so many fun and loving memories with. it just makes the break up so much more painful when they act like they have stop caring about us so easily. is this a normal behaviour among dumpers? is their behaviour actually a projection of how they truly feel? i just dont get it:(
pandagirl Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I doubt that your ex is hunky dory. I think a lot of people avoid the thing that is causing them discomfort, but it doesn't mean that he's not sad or missing you. It's just an individual's way to cope.
thatsonlyme Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 He's probably trying to make things easier for both of you. If he showed his true feeling, you'd still have hope and try to get him back. I don't think it's possible to entirely lose feelings overnight. It doesn't mean he wants you back though. I was a dumper before and I left her because of my current ex. I fell madly in love with my current ex, but I still felt bad about our break up. I probably acted cold, but I don't think there is any other way around it. I wanted her to move on and be happy. She meant a lot to me once and she is a great person. My ex is acting cold now as well, but sometimes she's even mean to me. Or that's maybe all in my head, dumpee perspective is a lot different compared to dumpers perspective. I know she still cares and probably misses all the good times we had together. Did your ex fall in love with someone? If so, that's the answer you're looking for. If he just wanted to be alone then his reasons could be different IDK.
Author Lovelydawn Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) Did your ex fall in love with someone? If so, that's the answer you're looking for. If he just wanted to be alone then his reasons could be different IDK. no, there was no 3rd party involved in our break up. at least none that i know of. he just got fed up of our arguing and from what i can understand probably cant handle the stress from that coz there are also some personal things going on in his life that he needs to sort out. he said he felt like he doesn't like me anymore and is no longer happy in the relationship. we didn't talk a lot since the break up. i did not beg, chase or plead after he left our apartment. but the last conversation we had through IM he just seem so cold and distant, like he doesn't care and not affected at all. after the break up he told me he doesn't want to cut contact with me and want to at least remain as friends. last time we talked i just told him that i don't think we can be friends after what has happen and still talking to each isn't a good idea either. it was a short conversation which i initiated and he ended it first. after that conversation it made me realize that it's really time for me to let go since he seem not to care anymore and i cant allow him to keep me felling like a worthless piece of garbage. i have decided to not contact him anymore and just move on with my life. this is so incredibly hard but i'm left with no other choice. i miss him like crazy Edited October 17, 2010 by Lovelydawn
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