youhadme Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 well I am new to the forum and just want to share my thoughts as this site has been helpful to me the last couple of weeks. I have been reading and realise that most of the time the ex makes contact, however insignificant. Though through this forum I know, these contacts should not be welcomed but for those of you who want to get back at least, the very least you know they are still thinking about you in some way. In my situation, my bf broke up with me and never made contact...not a phone call, an email, ...nothing! We got back together one night after a month due to me initiating contact. He must have had second thoughts (which we discussed) and since then three weeks ago....again-- NOTHING. I guess I should be grateful as it gives me time to heal and get over things but I can't help feeling somewhat worse when it seems to me that every ex contacts again in someway! Has anyone had any experiences where the ex doesn't make contact for a significant period of time and then initiates? I really want to get back with him and think my only hope, however small, is to remain nc. I am dating again, but it is not the same.
broken-and-lost Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 To be honest the reason people say no contact on here is for you to heal and move on, in some cases it helps both parties to take time away from all the emotions to think about what they want objectively, sometime people get back together a lot of the time they don't, but the pain of it fades away if you have less contact to start with. You never no what is around the corner i guess try and stay positive and i hope things work out for you . I'm in a similar position part of me want to stay in contact as i don't want to lose my ex, part of me knows i should leave her be to make her own mind up and get on with my life and just see whats around the corner neither is easy hope things work out for you
Author youhadme Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 thanks I appreciate your reply...it does make sense. But to be honest at this point, I wouldn't mind alittle rope to hang myself with (a contact I mean). Something to at least know how he is feeling about the whole thing. He knows I'm dating...I would at least like to think he may curious about this. I just think dumpees should at least appreciate the ex contact...alittle validation that they are on the mind.
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