ptah1206 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Confused! About 2 weeks ago, I met this girl at a meeting for an activity that we are both in at school. That day, we talked a little bit and then the next day, we exchanged phone numbers. Ever since then, we have been talking everyday. She usually texts me first most of the time. She talks about hanging out with me and going places with me. But, there is a problem here. I really like this girl because she is pretty, outgoing, and is in the same major as me. I thought that this was going to work out for sure. Lately though, she has been talking about her ex that basically said she was his soul mate and then dumped her. She has said she still likes him. I always seem to get into these type of situations where a girl cannot get over an ex that did not treat them well at all. I hate it because I told her I was always there for her and have been nice to her all of the time. I have offered to help her with homework etc. This whole situation is confusing me. She seems like she likes me one day, then the next day it is different. Each day is different and I cannot predict what is going to happen. She is showing mixed signals. I want to talk to her about it, but I do not want to ruin our friendship. I was thinking of asking her to dinner this week, but is that the right thing to do? Is there any way to help her get over this man?
fiat500 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 we don't get over a guy until we decide to. she's saying she still likes her ex. so she still likes her ex and sees you as some kind of substitute to vent to because you're there. she might be unintentionally taking advantage. if she talks about going places with you then invite her out. but be wary since she's being fickle. you have nothing to lose at this point though. you can come out and tell her that you would like to see her get over her ex because you like her and will most definitely be a better boyfriend than her ex. in your own words. if she's mature she will either tell you she has no feelings and will continue to be your friend or she will tell you she feels something for you. but talk to her about it since she's sending mixed signals. good luck.
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