LK30 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Hi all, I do some voluntary work for a charity and went to an event last winter where I saw a girl (who is a paid employee for this charity) who I really liked instantly. She kind of gave me butterflies but never got chance to speak to her. I told some of the charity workers I liked her, and last a group of us went out as it was one of the workers' birthdays. This girl came along (which the birthday boy forewarned me about so I'm wondering if he's said anything to her as I've made it clear to people I like her!). I really psyched myself up, and the great news was she was there looking a stunning as I remembered her from last year. But would you believe I couldn't find the right opportunity to talk to her! I feel gutted as I have still not had a conversation with her, however a couple of times we made eye contact and she smiled at me. My dilemma is that it is highly unlikely our paths will cross again for some time as we're about an hour apart by car. I have e-mailed her once before about something, but apart from that no contact. I feel like I need to do something about it, and if the chances of me seeing her again are so slim I won't have to face any embarrassment! I am debating e-mailing her to say something like 'hey, how you doing, did did you enjoy the night out? Sorry I didn't get chance to say hi...' So the question is...make contact, or let it go.... Cheers :-)
Author LK30 Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 Second paragraph should read 'and last night a group...' as I missed out the word night! Whoops!
loverofloveandstuff Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Email her. You have nothing to lose. If she doesn't reply, you'll probably never see her again anyway. If she does, great.
angielove Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Definitely email her! RIGHT NOW!!!!! Because if you don't, you'll always wonder what could have happened Good luck and do tell what she emails back! PS. You can edit your posts if you make a mistake... there's an edit button just underneath
Author LK30 Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 Cheers guys! I actually expected the 'let her go' response as I am wondering if it may look a little dodgy e-mailing someone like that!! I might hold out and hope I get about 10 responses to get a variety of views, but I suppose there is no right or wrong answer. She's about 25 and I'm 30 so was worried it may be a bit of a childish thing to do!!
Confusedalways Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 email her!! You always regret the things you didn't do more than the ones you did. You have absolutely nothing to lose- you said it yourself, your paths are unlikely to cross again. Go for it!
lso802 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Make contact but by phone, if you have her number. If you email her, ask for her number.
saiveca Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I'd definitely take a chance. If she likes you, bingo. If she doesn't like you, she'll think you're a bit weird and will either respond something lame or not respond at all. Either way, you can't lose.
tami-chan Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I agree with the rest. Send her an email...asap! Good luck!
Author LK30 Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 Thanks again guys - I was wondering if it was a good idea or not to ask for help on this one as it's easier to advise others to do something but would we then do something different ourselves! Well, I did e-mail her at lunchtime today saying 'hi how you doing' and nothing too heavy, but I never got a response. I like to think it was because she wasn't in the office today, but unfortunately I expect the reality is she deleted it and wasn't interested. To be fair to her, I never spoke to her at the weekend, so she might wonder why she should make the effort. Oh well, there's still time for her to reply later this week, but if not then perhaps I can put this all to rest and try to move on :-)
Author LK30 Posted October 20, 2010 Author Posted October 20, 2010 Well the good news is the girl I took a chance with and e-mailed has replied and it looks like your good advice has paid off! I thought I wouldn't hear anything as it has been a few days, but a message came thru from her apologising for not replying sooner, which was such a relief to me as I felt a bit embarrassed and that her not replying meant she thought I was a weirdo!! Anyway she was friendly but her e-mail wasn't very open ended so it's not like I've got a reason to reply again, so I wish she had asked me a question so I could have kept the conversation going!! As for the dilemma, there's an event/conference coming up in a couple of weeks time. However, it clashes with a party!! So, do I go on the stag do that i promised ages ago I'd go on or go on the conference as she may well be there!! I suppose now I've broken the ice it may be easier to talk to her...
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