lonelygirl23 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Hi. Although I greet people at school and I talk and know them when I ask about school stuffs. I absolutely have no close friends. I have a boyfriend but other than our business matters, we don't really talk because when we do it often just leads to disagreements or he agrees without listening. People used to ask me to hang out but I always decline because I want to be home at once to study or help my bf with our business. My bf can't handle the business well and if I stop helping him I am afraid that we will have no source of income. I'm always very tired and most of the time I feel so lonely and empty that I sometimes find myself crying involuntarily at night. I know I need help but my bf says there is no problem and when I ask advises from other he says I should listen to them instead of him and he will walk out on me. What should I do?
Disillusioned Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Get a hobby. Sketch. Paint. Write stories. Write poems. Write songs. Learn how to sew and make costumes. Become a radio ham and talk to people on the radio. Go biking. Go hiking. Build model cars. Anything but sit around and mope!
BiscuitXOXO Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 ^^^do all of the above. And dump your boyfriend. He sounds like a jerk.
Awesome Username Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 Spend time away from the house. Spend a few days at a bookstore or volunteer for something, maybe. You're seeing too much of your boyfriend.
pureinheart Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 ^^^do all of the above. And dump your boyfriend. He sounds like a jerk. My thoughts also:)
Tim The Enchanter Posted October 20, 2010 Posted October 20, 2010 You're at school. You're never going to have a better opportunity in life for making friends, so make the most of it. There must be all kinds of clubs, activities and sports that you could take part in and make new friends. You need to get a handle on this thing right now, because I can assure you that it gets worse as you get older. When you have a full time job and rent and bills to pay, it suddenly becomes much harder to go out and make new friends.
amy12344 Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 it gets worse as you get older. When you have a full time job and rent and bills to pay, it suddenly becomes much harder to go out and make new friends. Absolutely! I wish I could go back to the days when I was in school. It's near impossible to make friends now. For me anyway.
Cee Posted October 21, 2010 Posted October 21, 2010 Call of those people who used to ask to hang out and suggest you go to a movie or drinks. It's common for people to drop out of a social circle when they get busy with work or a relationship. Make the initiative and step back into the social scene. I think you should lose the boyfriend, but I'm not going to suggest that. It seems like your not quite ready for that. But have those friends night out things regularly and you may feel less lonely.
Truthseeker-John Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 (edited) Hi. Although I greet people at school and I talk and know them when I ask about school stuffs. I absolutely have no close friends. I have a boyfriend but other than our business matters, we don't really talk because when we do it often just leads to disagreements or he agrees without listening. People used to ask me to hang out but I always decline because I want to be home at once to study or help my bf with our business. My bf can't handle the business well and if I stop helping him I am afraid that we will have no source of income. I'm always very tired and most of the time I feel so lonely and empty that I sometimes find myself crying involuntarily at night. I know I need help but my bf says there is no problem and when I ask advises from other he says I should listen to them instead of him and he will walk out on me. What should I do? If two people don't really communicate, what is the point in going on like that? Do you really love each other? In my opinion a relationship based on 'business matters' is not going to work for a happy relationship. It would be good for you to meet new people and find someone who is more compatible - while because you are concerned about his business, at the same time help him with that and be his friend that way. Edited October 22, 2010 by Truthseeker-John
Truthseeker-John Posted October 22, 2010 Posted October 22, 2010 You're at school. You're never going to have a better opportunity in life for making friends, so make the most of it. There must be all kinds of clubs, activities and sports that you could take part in and make new friends. You need to get a handle on this thing right now, because I can assure you that it gets worse as you get older. When you have a full time job and rent and bills to pay, it suddenly becomes much harder to go out and make new friends.Totally agree, Tim.
Green_eyes Posted October 24, 2010 Posted October 24, 2010 As several people have already said, you have the perfect opportunity to meet people - so take the time to get to know some of the people that you are around. You can always suggest getting together with a group after school as a joint study group/ social kind of thing. It is something that I did when I was at school (many moons ago ) and it worked quite well. It is not my place to say you should or shouldn't dump your boyfriend - but something does need to change (IMHO) - he might say that there is no problem, but there IS a problem because you are clearly unhappy. If you are unhappy enough to cry involuntarily there there is very definitely a problem. I can understand your reluctance to stop helping him, on the basis that he needs help - but that doesn't mean that you have to be walked all over just because you are a good person. I don't know if that is the case, because I am reading between the lines - but that may be food for thought. I'd say it is time to think about what you want, and take it from there.
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