Big_AL_60 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I was married and in a relationship with this woman for 7 years. She left me for someone else and about 4 months ago split up. Since then she has started talking to me again. Well, we are from a really small town and tonight I was at the same bar as her, I glanced over at her like 3 times and noticed every time she was starring at me. Also later in the evening she approached me and chatted with me. The thing is, I get the feeling she's intrested in me, but she wants me to make the first move. This is the feeling I get everytime I chat with her, and whenever I run into her. The thing is, I was very hurt by the way things ended the first time. I feel like to get into a relationship with her again she needs to make the moves and pursue me. I feel like she needs to show me she's intrested and willing to take a chance. I obviously still have feeling for her or I wouldn't be on here asking questions about her. But I was wondering if anybody has been in the same situation? Am I wrong for wanting her to kind of "prove" herself. I just feel like I'm not going to stick my neck out unless she's willing to make an effort. Thanks
andrew-bkk Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 You are not wrong in wanting her to prove herself, but it's very likely that she feels kind of ashamed or guilty or unworthy. I doubt she'll make the first move. If the two of you have genuinely moved on from the previous relationship and have come to terms with all the issues that lead to the split, then I think you may have a chance. But in all probability, it's just a tiny chance. Perhaps she's just feeling lonely because the other relationship ended. This kind of stuff is very hard, so you will need to be on your guard and keep your expectations to a minimum.
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