Pfiend101 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Well I took this girl out for the second time. Shes 19 and I'm 23. Went for a kiss at the end of the night again and she just turned her head away. I can tell she is really shy. This is going to make me get flamed probably but. If shes this shy about just a simple kiss. If she doesnt kiss me on the next date I'm writing her off. If I have to wait that long for a kiss I'm not waiting a year for sex or however long that's gonna take. I think this just may mean we are incompatible. I dunno. Shes a good girl I'm just not sure if shes attracted or what.
Mad Max Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Honestly, I wouldn't even give her another shot. Two dates and still turning her head when you tried to kiss her? Launch.
skydiveaddict Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) I agree with Max to a point, but on the other hand perhaps she really is that shy. I might be willing to give her some more chances. What if she is not comfortable around you quite yet. Maybe she is a little frightened and unsure of herself around you. You can never tell. You might miss out on a really great girl and never know it Edited October 17, 2010 by skydiveaddict
mmk1 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Honestly, I wouldn't date a girl a second time if she didn't like me enough to kiss me on the first date, let alone the second.
Star Gazer Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Honestly, I wouldn't even give her another shot. Two dates and still turning her head when you tried to kiss her? Launch. If you're going to say the infamous LS word, at least say it right: LAUNCH. But I agree, OP... this gal is either too timid or not interested, neither of which makes for someone you should spend any more time on.
Titania22 Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Hi, I can't speak for this particular girl as I don't know her. But I am aware of how much in a rush everyone is these days. Your first kiss is something that only happens once, and as a girl, I like the opportunity to desire the guy, and wonder what it would be like to kiss him, to have that time when I hope it will happen. And all that has to go on before this kiss happens. You can't go back 2 years later and redo the first kiss, or the first sex, or the first touch. All of the firsts only happen once. The anticipation and the wondering and not knowing, only happen once. You have a whole lifetime to be bored experiencing the same sex with the same partner day in and day out. I'm sure if you asked a middle aged person, they would say, they wished they had paid more attention to the firsts. And you don't know which girl you meet is going to be the one, so you don't know which firsts are going to be the ones you will be wanting to remember. Basically, if you start to enjoy the journey, instead of always being focussed on your destination, you will enjoy all your life more, and women will respond to that. I hope this is some food for your thought.
USMCHokie Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 If you're going to say the infamous LS word, at least say it right: LAUNCH. Exactly!!! LAUNCH. All caps.
Idalis Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I didn't kiss my bf till our 4th date, and I was in my late 20's!!(And thats the fastest I've ever kissed anyone) I just don't warm up to people quickly and I also don't like to kiss just anyone. The guy has to feel like he's someone special or at least COULD BE someone special, not just joe schmoe, maybe thats lame to some people, but I wouldn't change a thing! Then again, I didn't turn my head either. My bf said he kinda read my cues and just saw that I wasn't really a fast-moving type of girl.. When he did kiss me, it was the perfect time, I was a little caught off guard but in a good way. I completely believe she could be just that shy too.. she's only 19 after all. But yeah from a guys perspective I can understand why you would feel annoyed by someone turning their head when you go to kiss them. I'm curious if a 3rd date would lead to a kiss or not, but I dont know if the people saying that they wouldnt go on the 3rd date make valid points too
Author Pfiend101 Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 Thx for the input. Yeah... I'm kinda on the fence on this one still. I'm willing to go on one more date. If there is no kiss at the end I'm done.
that girl Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Thx for the input. Yeah... I'm kinda on the fence on this one still. I'm willing to go on one more date. If there is no kiss at the end I'm done. Maybe you should just forget it. She's either really shy/conservative, in which case on date isn't going to make much difference, or she isn't sexually interested in you. Going on the date with the though "She better kiss me on this date or else!" probably isn't going to end in her making out with you.
Sabali Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) Personally never met a woman too shy to be the receiver of at least a small kiss at the end of the night whether she's into you or not. There comes a time in a man's life when he has to learn when to take a hint. Your time has come. Correction: I just remembered one. Monica... many years ago after going to see Jerry Mcguire at the theater. Headed back to my place and we were in my bedroom, in the bed and in the dark. I went for the kiss and she deflected. She didn't even allow me to kiss her at all. It was a strange experience but we acted as if it never happened later and remained cool towards each other. In any event, the deflection is never good. It wasn't good in the case of Monica either. Edited October 17, 2010 by Sabali
Author Pfiend101 Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 She messaged me today asking "When am I going to get to see you again?" Judging by that she's interested. I'll just verbally say "I'm going to kiss you so she expects it and then go for it. The first kiss doesnt have to be some grand special thing for me. lol
TouchedByViolet Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I find this level of shyness very strange. Maybe she has never been kissed in a good way before or the last guy who kissed her was a d-bag or something. I don't know but very strange. Don't tell her you are going to kiss her. You either just do it or ask her to kiss her. Asking might be the way to go in this situation. If she says No, then ask her why not? And find out what the problem is.
Author Pfiend101 Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 I'll just ask her. Thats a good idea. Indeed it seems strange she acts like she likes me and everything. I understand everyone saying to launch but after this latest text. I'm willing to try a little more with her. Shes a nice girl that might be relationship material. Unlike some of the more recent ones. Who were hot.... but that only goes so far.
Sabali Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 She messaged me today asking "When am I going to get to see you again?" Judging by that she's interested. I'll just verbally say "I'm going to kiss you so she expects it and then go for it. The first kiss doesnt have to be some grand special thing for me. lol As Carhill once said, "watch out for the sympathy bob and weave." Please don't ask if you could kiss her. You think that she rejected you because you didn't ask for permission to kiss her? Couples dating kiss all of the time and it just something that is done. Just do it! I suggest going in for the hug and as you are sliding out of the hug, quickly kiss her on the lips. No chance for her to be "shy." Every thing will become more clear to you afterwards.
bac Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I'll just ask her. Thats a good idea. Indeed it seems strange she acts like she likes me and everything. I understand everyone saying to launch but after this latest text. I'm willing to try a little more with her. Shes a nice girl that might be relationship material. Unlike some of the more recent ones. Who were hot.... but that only goes so far. Kissing on the first/second dates might be important if you are after an ONS. If you looking for anything else such as FWBs/ a R, it does not matter when you kiss. A kiss is girl's pesonal preference/rule. It has nothing to do with anything. Some girls kiss everyone on the first dates. Some girls kiss everyone on the second/or third dates. I assume that a girl 19 should be shy, naive and immature. My personal rule is to kiss a guy only on the third date. I let them know the rule at the begining if they are desperate for kissing. If he likes me, I assume he can wait a few dates. If he does not like me, why do I need to swallow his herpes before he rejects me? I have no idea how a girl can be ready for a kiss with a stranger on the first/second dates. But, I also can not imagine that it can be really pleasant for her.
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