sdarren40 Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 My live in bf and I are breaking up (on good terms). I will be moving back home to California in a few weeks. I know that in order for me to move on, I will have to have NC until I've healed. We were best friends for a long time and I still want him in my life in the future, even if we're not a couple. After NC, could I contact him and try to be friends again? Have any of you done this successfully? We made promises to each other that we'll always be friends....I meant this promise.
TheUnthoughtKnown Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 My live in bf and I are breaking up (on good terms). I will be moving back home to California in a few weeks. I know that in order for me to move on, I will have to have NC until I've healed. We were best friends for a long time and I still want him in my life in the future, even if we're not a couple. After NC, could I contact him and try to be friends again? Have any of you done this successfully? We made promises to each other that we'll always be friends....I meant this promise. Yes, I did that. A girl I dated for over a year and we were very close. We broke up because we realised we were too young to be so committed an we both had our careers an things to focus on. It just wasn't the right time for us. We agreed mutually an went our seperate ways. We stayed in touch for a while, every now and again, before goin NC for a good...5 or 6 months at least. Then my latest ex broke up with me and I freefalled into depression. My old ex called me up and we got chatting. She really helped me deal with it, she was a shoulder to cry on. For the last 6 months she has become one of my best friends, still extremely close, but without that sexual tension or anything. It's great! It CAN happen, and its so refreshing when it does coz it's kinda like a light at the end of the tunnel.
Leandro Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 I plan on being friends with my recent ex, but not for a long time. I hold grudges for many many years. I have some that are 10 years old. I know it's not healthy but oh well. I think I will contact her when I have healed and no longer have a grudge against her.
Author sdarren40 Posted October 18, 2010 Author Posted October 18, 2010 I thought it was an amicable break up...but I now have reasons to believe he was interested in another woman....I guess it's much more complicated than I thought.
paleblue Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 I thought it was an amicable break up...but I now have reasons to believe he was interested in another woman....I guess it's much more complicated than I thought. It's never just amicable. There is always something behind it...
Leandro Posted October 18, 2010 Posted October 18, 2010 It's never just amicable. There is always something behind it... I agree with this post. People don't just break up to break up.
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