tobydog Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Brief details as I posted under another thread. Married 14 years, 4 year old son. I used to drink 2 nights a week to escape the chaos of the house. He has never been a drinker or even had any pals; he runs the business from home. He met some new pals and came home at 2am and we had a fight. I lashed out but I am not a violent drunk, he is 6.3 and I an 5.2, so he left and has already filed for divorce saying my drinking had screwed him up. He is so angry with me and would not talk or hardly see our son. He popped in and out and has been letting the business slide. I am off school and having to answer so many calls a day about the business and why they had not received their goods. He moved the business out last Mon but not the stock. I have not been in contact apart from the initial pleas etc. So last night he sent a text saying he had no money and that I was not to take any more (the business money went into my account) But I have not taken any so I sent a mail back saying Go home which was a silly little saying we had. He replied, I am at home and you're not Thank God. He came this morning for some stock, ignored our son and said he would come back to see him later. He did not. But he did seem less angry with me. I don't wish him any ill and want his buisness to succeed. He said as he went, You've got everything and I've got F*** all. Now he sends me a text asking if I found his driver's licence. Which I know he has got. We did have a solid love and I am certain there is no-one else involved. Just these lads who he is out boozing with and spending £60 on pizzas. 3 days before this happened we were out buying paint and stuff to redecorate. I think he needs help as we all think he is having a mid life crisis. I am getting stronger and stopped crying mainly because of how he has abandoned his son who just started school and has not even asked about him. I just want him home. What to do?
Author tobydog Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 Please any perspectives would be good, he had defriended me on FB and put new pics of him seeming happy and smiling. Help me please with your thoughts x
shayan Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) wow this is hectic I'm sorry. But there is reason for hope. I tend to agree that such a sudden radical shift in personality will probably be short-lived and he will return to a more normal self soon. However, you must be honest with yourself and be prepared to deal with things ending if it comes to that. He has filed for divorce so at this point I would try to salvage what is left, try talking to him calmly perhaps with a counseler. Be positive during this time for your son and I will pray that things work out for you. Edited October 17, 2010 by shayan
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