Gt.ooh Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Hey everyone. My gf and I ended it for good. No more pining and hoping. The promise ring came off, put the picture of her and I by my bed tucked away neatly into a drawer. We exchange a couple of emails. She had changed her number so I had to do the wrong thing of stir up things with her family. She was ignoring me and I just wanted to say couple last things, and wished her well... Thanks for the help and support on here, any new comers u will see the light much faster after a few of the established members put you in your place. I won't be posting as much as I was, but I'll still be around to offer my advice and my experience when I can. Thanks Billie, Cap. Here is the last email: ______, There is nothing left to "explain". Don't use the condo as an excuse to talk to me ever again. I have no interest in you, therefore there is nothing to talk about when it comes to you or i. As far as "clearing things up for everyone involved". They only reason that my family is now involved is due to your bad judgement. You need to grow up and get over this. Were done. I don't want to talk, I don't want to be friends. Nothing will ever happen between us. Stop dragging this on. I can't make this anymore clear to you. Don't hold your breath on the phone call. It's not going to happen. That's essentially what I wanted. She disappeared 2.5 weeks ago with nothing. I was left whining and moping around. She sounds very angry now, but hardly any time has passed. Correct me if I'm wrong but I have a gut feeling 3-6 months I'll be getting a phone call. I replied with: "Okay, fair enough. There really isn't anything to explain. I just wanted to say that I didn't want the last year to be a waste due to my recent actions. I loved you so much and cared about you so much that I should have been able to accept your decision. And that's really all. I turned into a needy selfish person. I wish you all the best in your schooling.
ShannonMI Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Hey everyone. My gf and I ended it for good. No more pining and hoping. The promise ring came off, put the picture of her and I by my bed tucked away neatly into a drawer. We exchange a couple of emails. She had changed her number so I had to do the wrong thing of stir up things with her family. She was ignoring me and I just wanted to say couple last things, and wished her well... Thanks for the help and support on here, any new comers u will see the light much faster after a few of the established members put you in your place. I won't be posting as much as I was, but I'll still be around to offer my advice and my experience when I can. Thanks Billie, Cap. Here is the last email: ______, There is nothing left to "explain". Don't use the condo as an excuse to talk to me ever again. I have no interest in you, therefore there is nothing to talk about when it comes to you or i. As far as "clearing things up for everyone involved". They only reason that my family is now involved is due to your bad judgement. You need to grow up and get over this. Were done. I don't want to talk, I don't want to be friends. Nothing will ever happen between us. Stop dragging this on. I can't make this anymore clear to you. Don't hold your breath on the phone call. It's not going to happen. That's essentially what I wanted. She disappeared 2.5 weeks ago with nothing. I was left whining and moping around. She sounds very angry now, but hardly any time has passed. Correct me if I'm wrong but I have a gut feeling 3-6 months I'll be getting a phone call. I replied with: "Okay, fair enough. There really isn't anything to explain. I just wanted to say that I didn't want the last year to be a waste due to my recent actions. I loved you so much and cared about you so much that I should have been able to accept your decision. And that's really all. I turned into a needy selfish person. I wish you all the best in your schooling. Wow! Her email to you was nasty! Why is she so pissed at you? I guess I need to go back and read your past posts and threads. That email was COLD!
Author Gt.ooh Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 Yea I honestly don't know. I've read things that people have done on here after break-ups or prior for that matter. I was nothing but nice supportive, gave her my all. It's only been a month and I wanted to make contact. I had a pretty good feeling that she wasn't changing her mind, but it cleared it up for me. We should make a wager...lmao how long ppl predict from experience till she emails me down the road or calls...The wake up call will come for her, only a matter of time. Definitely read some of my other posts and you'll see.
ShannonMI Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Yea I honestly don't know. I've read things that people have done on here after break-ups or prior for that matter. I was nothing but nice supportive, gave her my all. It's only been a month and I wanted to make contact. I had a pretty good feeling that she wasn't changing her mind, but it cleared it up for me. We should make a wager...lmao how long ppl predict from experience till she emails me down the road or calls...The wake up call will come for her, only a matter of time. Definitely read some of my other posts and you'll see. I read some posts of yours and it sounds like you begged and pleaded a little. I did the same thing. That's what dumpees do, though. I sent him all sorts of emails and texts until I found LS and realized NC was the way to go. He was always nice to me and said he wanted to be friends, but there was no way we would be together romantically. Little did I know he cheated on me and was dating the girl he cheated on me with. I found that out a few months after the breakup. I was so sorry that I even tried to change his mind in the beginning, but whatever. Now I want nothing to do with him. I did send him an email when I found out that he cheated. It said that I didn't want him to contact me ever again and that he was dead to me. But a few weeks ago I got a text from him which said: I know you said to never contact you again, but I can't help but ask if you are ok. I've grown accustom to it. It's ok if you never want to speak to me again or if you hate me, but I do want you to know that I'll always be here as a friend if you need to talk. Please don't respond-just know that you can if you need to. Needless to say I didn't respond and I will never be his "friend." He's a fool for even suggesting it after what he did to me. Idiot. Stay strong Gt.ooh. Things will get better. Just don't contact her again in any way, shape or form.
WTRanger Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Don't be so full of yourself. You are one step shy of a court order to stay away from her. You pushed her to the brink, and well over the edge. She's never going to come back. She's never going to "wake up" and come find you. If anything, you'll be that nutbag stalker ex she compares all of her future boyfriends to. Waiting around hoping she finally realizes she made a mistake isn't the way to healing yourself. You need to forget about her. Forget about 6 months from now. Because in 7 months when she hasn't contacted you, you'll relapse when your expectations don't match up to reality. Put this one in the category of what not to do duirng a break then break-up. Learn from it, improve yourself, but this girl is deader than dead to you.
Author Gt.ooh Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 Don't be so full of yourself. You are one step shy of a court order to stay away from her. You pushed her to the brink, and well over the edge. She's never going to come back. She's never going to "wake up" and come find you. If anything, you'll be that nutbag stalker ex she compares all of her future boyfriends to. Waiting around hoping she finally realizes she made a mistake isn't the way to healing yourself. You need to forget about her. Forget about 6 months from now. Because in 7 months when she hasn't contacted you, you'll relapse when your expectations don't match up to reality. Put this one in the category of what not to do duirng a break then break-up. Learn from it, improve yourself, but this girl is deader than dead to you. Oh I know.. I did push her to the brink. but if you read my initial stuff... Her ex bf was far worse than me..the bar was already set my friend...I did nothing compared to him trust me.. I begged a bit sure and pleaded yes..selfish yes...all guilty. But who hasn't?? Big deal i txted a bit..not the worst thing in the world.
Author Gt.ooh Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 I read some posts of yours and it sounds like you begged and pleaded a little. I did the same thing. That's what dumpees do, though. I sent him all sorts of emails and texts until I found LS and realized NC was the way to go. He was always nice to me and said he wanted to be friends, but there was no way we would be together romantically. Little did I know he cheated on me and was dating the girl he cheated on me with. I found that out a few months after the breakup. I was so sorry that I even tried to change his mind in the beginning, but whatever. Now I want nothing to do with him. I did send him an email when I found out that he cheated. It said that I didn't want him to contact me ever again and that he was dead to me. But a few weeks ago I got a text from him which said: I know you said to never contact you again, but I can't help but ask if you are ok. I've grown accustom to it. It's ok if you never want to speak to me again or if you hate me, but I do want you to know that I'll always be here as a friend if you need to talk. Please don't respond-just know that you can if you need to. Needless to say I didn't respond and I will never be his "friend." He's a fool for even suggesting it after what he did to me. Idiot. Stay strong Gt.ooh. Things will get better. Just don't contact her again in any way, shape or form. thanks shannon glad you could see through it
ShannonMI Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 Oh I know.. I did push her to the brink. but if you read my initial stuff... Her ex bf was far worse than me..the bar was already set my friend...I did nothing compared to him trust me.. I begged a bit sure and pleaded yes..selfish yes...all guilty. But who hasn't?? Big deal i txted a bit..not the worst thing in the world. Yeah, Wtranger's post was a little harsh. It's not like you stalked the girl. All dumpees beg and plead in the beginning. It happens. You aren't a "nutbag" either BTW:)
Author Gt.ooh Posted October 16, 2010 Author Posted October 16, 2010 hahah, agreed...and no offense taken because he obviously didn't take the time to read anything of mine. I appreciate it. And your right I didn't stalk her, and I never even called her when I had the number. It's all good
WTRanger Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 (edited) Harsh, yes. But you need to hear it because you are using your time away from her for her to miss you. That's not how it works. You need to focus on yourself and you need to understand that yes, we all lash out when a break up happens but you reacted way too much. To her, it was the worst thing in the world because you wouldn't listen to her. It just reinforced everything in her mind why the two of you broke up. There is a fine line to trying to fix things and being able to give cling-wrap a lesson. You need to learn when to back off. You didn't this time. She changed her number, then when that didn't work you went after her family all to get some last words in. You let your raw emotions block your higher levels of thinking, so at that time, yes, you acted like a nutbag. Some of the best advice I have ever received on this board has been the harshest advice for me to read. Not attacking, not being a tool just to be a tool, but real honest words from people who have experienced the same. And for what it's worth, I did read all of your posts. You got all the same advice to leave her alone. Yet, you didn't. You still had to get the last words in. Edited October 16, 2010 by WTRanger
Billie The Puppet Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 IICR she is living in a Condo that your parents co-signed for or something like that? Doesn't that place your family in an awkward position. I suggest sell sell sell. Or am I mistaken I remember some of your threads but not to a T. Also it's weird seeing me as an established member I have over 500 posts and only been here a month and a half. It's really all I do with spare time now a days which is sad . I need to go out and find myself again but I feel that person left with her.
Author Gt.ooh Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 True Billie, and WT.. I do agree. But if u knew my whole ordeal I'm sure u'd see why I wanted to say some last words. I realized i was clingy and needy. But on the same side we just moved into a new condo which I used my credit score for, my parents to co-sign and I just got kicked to the curb so to speak. Well it's not a bad thing Billie your advice has been quite good I must say.
Billie The Puppet Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 Well it's not a bad thing Billie your advice has been quite good I must say. Thank you, I'm not sure where I get the strength to give it though some days I just crash myself. I thank other established members too, Don Ho! specifically. You were used for your credit score and your parents co-signing that is absolutely horrible an in-human, I felt used for a drivers license I helped her pay for which is only $100.
Author Gt.ooh Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 Indeed my friend. Trust me when I say I didn`t want to involve anyone else. I wanted to call her and tell her I`m moving on. But she wanted none of it.. as you can tell lol. I`m coming out strong as I have done nothing wrong. And something was triggering her bigtime. But doesn`t matter now. Now official NC begins. Sure it was a harsh email and i was to put me in my place..I agree with it accept it, bc I know how bad I came off. I only wanted to express some last thoughts. I`m signing up to a gym tomorrow with my cousin, got rid of my FB, life moves forward. If she allowed me to call her I would told her about not using the condo as an excuse to talk and all that, her loss. I`ve only been able to email since day one pretty much and u can send 100 emails a never get anything across like a phone call.
Leandro Posted October 17, 2010 Posted October 17, 2010 I`m signing up to a gym tomorrow with my cousin, got rid of my FB, life moves forward. That's good that you'll have a partner to motivate you and be a spotter! Working out is good.
Author Gt.ooh Posted October 17, 2010 Author Posted October 17, 2010 (edited) definitely...I don't really like working out otherwise. My cousin has some personal training experience too. Just to clarify for everyone that reads. I know I messed up. Everyone makes mistakes.. I didn't make the thread to be told time and time again she's quite mad. I quite understand...And I'm quite frustrated. Thats all. It's life.. Edited October 17, 2010 by Gt.ooh
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