simpleton Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 There is this girl in my college that I adored for some time. But I did not do much about it because I am quite shy. Last year, she really started taking interest in me. I did nothing but go along. We went on walks, we had long conversations. During this time, I start really falling for her, in a sense that I am thinking everyday of what she will say, what I will say , and so on. This goes on for two months, and then I get really angry one day because one other guy friend of mine spoke badly of her. I was angry the whole day, could not think of anything else. So I decided that I really really really liked this girl for her to have this kind of an effect on me, and so I decided to bring it out into the open. So I decided that I had to tell this girl that I really liked her very much, and that maybe we should spend more time together. I was quite confident of getting an affirmative response. But when I do this, she says that she did not reciprocate these feelings. Okay, that was a blow but I was fine. She did not talk to me for about one month, and I also let the matter go, though it did hurt me a lot. I said nothing to her, I even helped her out in many ways in her college work. Then, she starts text messaging me, and I also reply back. The message rallies we exchange are long and go on for 20-25 minutes. I am also quite happy about this. This happens about 3-4 times a week and goes on for about 5 months. She also started sending me text messages during the lectures in the classroom. I really thought that she loved me and that I loved her. She asked for a lot of favours, which I obliged to selflessly. I did not really think much of it. But slowly, I start noticing one thing: When she meets me face to face, she treats me as if I am a total stranger, a mere acquaintance. She does not talk a lot, and I am wondering - she just messaged me a joke in the lecture, and now she treats me as if she doesn't even know me. Because my feelings for her were really genuine( I maintained a diary of what she wore, and what she said to me for about 14 months), I got really confused and screwed up in my head. I concluded that she was not a straightforward girl and was just trying to manipulate me into doing her petty chores. Coming to this decision was really hard. So I decided that I would no longer reply to her messages, or reply only very curtly. And that I would distance myself from her. Am I right in my conclusion? My head is all messed up.
denise_xo Posted October 16, 2010 Posted October 16, 2010 I concluded that she was not a straightforward girl and was just trying to manipulate me into doing her petty chores. Coming to this decision was really hard. So I decided that I would no longer reply to her messages, or reply only very curtly. And that I would distance myself from her. Am I right in my conclusion? My head is all messed up. Yes. I say she doesn't deserve you or your affection. Move on and save it for someone better. Your head will feel much better afterwards.
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